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I dislike it when you describe your disorder and how it affects your life and people go "Oh that's normal I do that all the time." No, you fucking don't. You don't understand the difference between a little quirk that lasts half an hour that you can train yourself to stop to a thing that lasts months that you physically cannot stop and affects your ability to hold down a job.
Sometimes my ADHD gets so bad that it actually causes me physical pain to spend hours doing a menial task that my brain finds boring. That's not a cute quirk, it's not fake, it's not fun, it's fucking crippling.
Even worse is people think you're doing it to get attention, play victim or avoid work.
Sometimes my ADHD gets so bad that it actually causes me physical pain to spend hours doing a menial task that my brain finds boring.
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Like people don’t understand that disorders are causing DISORDER in your life. There was a time when my adhd severely fucked up my academic career and I was literally unable to dig myself out of it.
Sometimes my ADHD gets so bad that it actually causes me physical pain to spend hours doing a menial task that my brain finds boring. That's not a cute quirk, it's not fake, it's not fun, it's fucking crippling.
Erm, excuse me but I believe that I was promised that being dysfunctional would be fun?
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I find no value trying to out people as fake autistics. It just creates room for allistics to gatekeep autism. If someone relates to others in autistic spaces and finds community there, I don't much care whether they got some allistic professional's permission first. Fakeclaiming creates a lot of bad habits that alienates more than just undisclosed autistics, such as that AutisricPride mod on reddit throwing DID peoole under the bus to appease a fakeclaiming subreddit that had been harassing the users of autistic subs.
Yeah, it's annoying if someone pretends the autistic experience is just not liking eye contact, but it's a spectrum and I don't want to create the conditions for people to overstate their experiences just to be considered "autistic enough." I would rather deal with some people exploring their identity and being mistaken about being autistic than risk some autistic kid being gatekept out.
I think the better way to frame this is that people with fewer support needs shouldn't dominate autistic discourse so much. Shit like "autism isn't a disability" leads such people to view autistics who obviously are very disabled as an obstacle; we can avoid such attitudes by applying some good 'ole intersectionality and being honest about privilege.
As annoying as it is that someone might claim a marginalized identity for clout, the amount of gatekeeping you have to do to prevent it is more harmful than the helpful.
Me: Literally rocking in place and cant hold still in my chair
My friend: "Dont you hate it when your leg bounces up and down without you thinking about it?"
Me:
Having autism doesn't mean being a socially awkward asshole. You could just be a misanthropic NT with shit social skills.
silver lining to that is the "celiacs" made GF food way more of an option. But otherwise yea it's nonsense for most people. Some hypochondriac behavior.
I mean, that is something people who actually need gluten free diets appreciated, as restaurants by and large weren't accommodating them before, grocery stores had shit selections that wete frequently out of stock, etc. It's bad that accommodation under capitalism requires a demographic to have enough money, but I'm not crying over a small business tyrant facing some pressure to make their restaurant accessible, even if it's for fad diets and medical misinformation.
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