Sadly, I can relate to this. It is infuriating when ppl use "are they polite" as a measure for politicians and are completely unimpressed by their policies. It even sucks when you agree with them, because the reasoning behind it matters. I don't really know how to describe it, it feels like arguing with a blind person about how things look, like they don't recognize a head of state should be judged on different merits than if it were the question: is my neighbor nice.