Only good cop is Officer Down

          • Phish [he/him, any]
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            4 years ago

            I don't really feel like continuing the discussion and I think I've said everything I wanted to say about it. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day, comrade.

            • gayhobbes [he/him]
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              4 years ago

              I feel like I'd have a better day if I didn't have this weird interaction ending with a hippie plea to civility or whatever.

              • Phish [he/him, any]
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                4 years ago

                If that "weird" interaction is affecting your day it's propbably time to log off for a while. I was just trying not to be a dick for no reason.

                • gayhobbes [he/him]
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                  4 years ago

                  Nah this is dumb masculine trying to control the conversation shit dressed up in trying to appear enlightened and peaceable. Which, honestly, if you don't agree with me fine but this "do whatever you want" shit isn't cutting it.

                  • Phish [he/him, any]
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                    4 years ago

                    Yeah I agree, 'do whatever you want' was a dick thing to say. I was frustrated and didn't want to keep talking about it. That's why I told you to have a nice day. I wasn't trying to play some masculine to enlightened mind game. Just trying to end on a positive note, but it doesn't seem like you're interested in that so why don't we just call it a day?

                    • gayhobbes [he/him]
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                      4 years ago

                      I don't think you were trying to do it, but it's a common silencing tactic with men. I get shut down by dudes when they're done talking, and instead of saying that they want to leave it, they pull this "have a nice day" thing, when it's clearly very passive aggressive.

                      I don't think we're at a productive point either, so I agree we should just leave it, but be aware of that. I think it's valuable to realize.