Only good cop is Officer Down

  • Phish [he/him, any]
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    4 years ago

    Yeah I agree, 'do whatever you want' was a dick thing to say. I was frustrated and didn't want to keep talking about it. That's why I told you to have a nice day. I wasn't trying to play some masculine to enlightened mind game. Just trying to end on a positive note, but it doesn't seem like you're interested in that so why don't we just call it a day?

    • gayhobbes [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      I don't think you were trying to do it, but it's a common silencing tactic with men. I get shut down by dudes when they're done talking, and instead of saying that they want to leave it, they pull this "have a nice day" thing, when it's clearly very passive aggressive.

      I don't think we're at a productive point either, so I agree we should just leave it, but be aware of that. I think it's valuable to realize.