Pop culture. They just pick up a general vibe from what other people say and they don't learn anything themselves. Maybe they hear some soundbites somewhere and proceed to misremember them.
Hell I went through college and actively got worse for it, folding back in on myself with a bad rationalization of cognitive dissonance that actively formed a shield against learning and becoming better. To be completely honest, if that hadn't been shredded along with all the other bullshit I'd built up as a bulwark of repression when I finally accepted I was trans, I probably never would have snapped out of it.
Even in that state, learning things that contradicted the built up schema was like touching a raw wound. Like I'm not trying to be poetic here, that is literally what it felt like, it was a physical pain. It took years of slowly learning more and more while existing in a status quo that was actively hostile to my very existence just to bring me around to being a naive sucdem, and years more of reading and talking and processing things to bring me to where I am now.
Pop culture. They just pick up a general vibe from what other people say and they don't learn anything themselves. Maybe they hear some soundbites somewhere and proceed to misremember them.
there are people who get through college and three decade careers doing this, never learning anything
Hell I went through college and actively got worse for it, folding back in on myself with a bad rationalization of cognitive dissonance that actively formed a shield against learning and becoming better. To be completely honest, if that hadn't been shredded along with all the other bullshit I'd built up as a bulwark of repression when I finally accepted I was trans, I probably never would have snapped out of it.
Even in that state, learning things that contradicted the built up schema was like touching a raw wound. Like I'm not trying to be poetic here, that is literally what it felt like, it was a physical pain. It took years of slowly learning more and more while existing in a status quo that was actively hostile to my very existence just to bring me around to being a naive sucdem, and years more of reading and talking and processing things to bring me to where I am now.