Arguably the most important thing to know about top/bottom or dom/sub relationships (other than the omnipresent "safe, sane, consensual") is that ultimately the person on bottom has all the actual power because the top/dom can't do shit unless they agree to it.
Obviously it's healthier to think of it as an equivalent relationship, but I feel like that phrasing makes it clear to shitheads who wants to dom what's actually going on.
also the bottom is the one in charge as they decide how far the top can go.
Arguably the most important thing to know about top/bottom or dom/sub relationships (other than the omnipresent "safe, sane, consensual") is that ultimately the person on bottom has all the actual power because the top/dom can't do shit unless they agree to it.
Obviously it's healthier to think of it as an equivalent relationship, but I feel like that phrasing makes it clear to shitheads who wants to dom what's actually going on.
I'm a top and it's the same thing with oral. The one performing oral is holding all the cards and I'm just along for the ride. :edgeworth-shrug:
Designating the size and rules of the playing field is important and also a part of the fun.