it’s bad for everyone.

  • hahafuck [they/them]
    ·
    2 years ago

    I've found love multiple times on dating apps. I spent yesterday cuddling under blankets due to dating apps. You just gotta be gay / be open-minded / keep at it

    • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
      ·
      2 years ago

      You just gotta be gay

      Being gay is having sex on easy mode. It's so unfair.

      • hahafuck [they/them]
        ·
        2 years ago

        Well if the unfairness ever gets you down just remember gay sex isn't something you are it's something you do and you can just go do it, with the way straight men are socialized it's probably too late for most to ever be able to share real romantic love with another man but that doesn't always factor into casually dating and the thrill of novel sex will get you surprisingly far physically even if it isn't something you typically fantasize about

          • hahafuck [they/them]
            ·
            2 years ago

            Not to be presumptuous but every man or woman I have ever heard say this later went on to have gay sex

        • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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          2 years ago

          gay sex isn’t something you are it’s something you do

          Sure. And, even if it tastes like soap, I can have as much cilantro as I like.

          it’s probably too late for most to ever be able to share real romantic love with another man

          Real romantic love with anyone is difficult. But that's not really my gripe.

          I'm more frustrated with how many women still have a hang up about "being a slut" for hooking up. The degree to which women feel shame over themselves, their bodies, their desires... Its both frustrating as a partner and painful to witness second hand.

          Guys are just allowed to be horny. Girls aren't.

          • hahafuck [they/them]
            ·
            2 years ago

            So you just flat won't ever eat a taco with even a trace of cilantro? Like it fully ruins the flavour? Cause I get the soap thing but I still enjoy the taco overall

              • hahafuck [they/them]
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                2 years ago

                I was mostly just asking about actual tacos because I'm curious about the cilantro aversion, I didn't pick the cilantro analogy and don't find it apt, but I will also say its good if its breaking the concept of gender bianary that shit sucks.

            • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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              2 years ago

              So you just flat won’t ever eat a taco with even a trace of cilantro?

              Not knowingly.

              Cause I get the soap thing but I still enjoy the taco overall

              I mean, I usually notice it and pick it out, then finish the taco.

      • edge [he/him]
        ·
        2 years ago

        Me, bi and still alone and never had sex in my mid 20s: :angery: