• Autisticky [they/them]
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    1 year ago

    When it got to the "Korean student moves into a dorm down my hallway" part, I immediately thought that he was going to be happily gay because that's an easy way out of not finding girls. RIP my straight mans

  • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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    1 year ago

    Adopted from an early age to white family

    Lived in all white community for his formative years

    Absolutely none of his family friends and relatives were Asian

    Ostracized and bullied by his peers throughout primary education because of his race

    Brutal, usually east Asian diaspora in the west form a network amongst each other made up of other migrants from the same area with a shared general culture. It is difficult to grow up in a foreign white majority country amongst people who don't have a shared understanding about how it's like.

  • TrudeauCastroson [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    I feel bad for this guy. Probably needs to move somewhere less racist to be happy. Sucks.

  • Frogmanfromlake [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    This is kind of true for any minority growing up in a majority white community. I kind of went through the same thing as a mestizo man in Upstate New York for most of my time there. Had almost the exact same mindset that being non-white made it harder to date. Then high school hit and girls started to call me attractive. While race played a part for sure during the early years, being fat and very socially awkward made it even worse.

    He mentions preferring to be alone and I have a feeling his social skills might not be the best. Charisma can turn a 5/10 into an 11/10.

  • arabiclearner
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    1 year ago

    "Even a lot of Asian women had the same opinion"

    :deeper-sadness:

    Kinda true from what I've seen anecdotally. Especially with Asian American women, there's still an element of white worship going on and accepting the prevalent "Asian males aren't sexually desirable" thing.

    • machiabelly [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      While I was at college the Asian and Pacific Islander Coalition (campus identity group) ended due to tensions between the men and women. Most of my friends were asian dudes so I learned a bit about the situation. The level of mistrust and resentment they would tell me about was insane. One told me about the death glares he got from Asian Women after hooking up with a WW. I couldn't imagine carrying the kind of cultural baggage I saw my friends dealing with.

      • kristina [she/her]
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        1 year ago

        i was big friends with the chinese group at our campus and there was a ton of just really gross attitudes from the men, i really dont blame the women for the kneejerk reaction of just avoiding asian spaces at campus altogether as a result just to avoid those bad apples. long story short the asian men felt like they were owed sex and relationships from the girls in the group right out of the gate before even really getting to know them. so much so that the older male chinese professor that created the group (and fun fact was a communist party member and my favorite teacher of all time, he was fucking awesome, we'd eat lunch together every day and play chess) started kicking guys out of it for creepy behavior.

        • machiabelly [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          That's terrible. I can understand the frustration of feeling like you can only date asian women but then asian women being able to date any race. But letting that turn into misogyny is a you problem. My guy friends were obviously better than that. One of them showed me some of the self hating reddit communities he used to be apart of and told me about how he used to resent asian women. For him the biggest difference maker was that he magically became hot between 17 and 19. That plus leaving home is what helped him grow out of it.

          That professor sounds great though. I think the first communists I met were at DSA meetings. Oh, I randomly met one guy at college who was a self described stalinist. I only ever learned about it because one of his friends came up to me, very concerned, and told me he's a Stalinist. I was a pretty anti soviet anarchist at the time but all I did was shrug my shoulders and tell him, "at least he's not a fascist." I hope that was enough to maintain their friendship. Thankfully most of the gay women and trans people I meet are lefties. Liberalism is big dying

    • GaveUp [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      <minority>-Americans are still first and foremost Americans and thus generally still racist towards basically every minority (including their own race) and extremely xenophobic towards non-Anglo/European countries

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      1 year ago

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      • bidenicecream
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        1 year ago

        Are you white? Just assuming without any other info that she might be one of the "white worshipping" types (maybe not even consciously)

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          1 year ago

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  • kristina [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    i feel bad for people adopted from other countries to a mayo family. like even though im a communist i feel like adopting a black kid is just a bad idea for me for example, there is absolutely no way i can give them proper survival experience for a black person in a white supremacist country. at the very least it just sucks that so many of these kids arent usually given many ties to other asian people that can give advice and advocate for each other in these terrible situations, makes the kid lose out on so much

    • FoolishFool [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      Maybe it's not culturally ideal, but I have to imagine being adopted by a family that presumably loves them is better than being an orphan.

      • ssjmarx [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        Undeniably it is, but there have been examples of schemes to steal nonwhite babies and sell them to white parents, so context is everything.

        • FoolishFool [she/her]
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          1 year ago

          I know, like with Native Americans in the past for example, but being that this guy's Chinese specifically I don't believe something like that is the case here at least.

          • kristina [she/her]
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            1 year ago

            afaik most chinese orphans are adopted from taiwan so

            but i really dont know if the QOL of life would be better here or there. at least they wouldnt have to deal with racism

  • glimmer_twin [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    Looking forward to the sequel this guy released right before shooting up a salon or something

    • bidenicecream
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      1 year ago

      This one doesn't seem to have the indicators of a typical incel tho. It just seems kinda sad

    • ButtBidet [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      That's super unfair and really diminishes his struggle.

      • DaringToday [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        Hey thanks for the reminder you guys almost ate the "doing a school shooting was the only effective way of being seen as a transgender person" bait post

  • berrytopylus [she/her,they/them]
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    1 year ago

    The idea of a dating site where they're all like "yep black people and Hispanics and middle eastern folk are all ok to me, it's just the Asians and nothing else" is pretty bad NGL. No dude, they get treated just the same.

    • ButtBidet [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      I have quite a few Asian guy friends, and many of them gripe about this. Also I can't get over the number of women (Asian, white, whatever) that say that they don't date Asian men. I legit think this is a real thing that disproportionately affects Asian guys.

      • berrytopylus [she/her,they/them]
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        1 year ago

        Pretty easy to go on dating sites rn and see things like "no darkies" or other wording that makes it clear they don't date any minority so it's not just Asian guys.

        • Aceivan [they/them]
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          1 year ago

          yeah there are plenty of racist americans that are just blanket xenophobic. But there does seem to be a significant cohort that is pretty open to dating (or worse fetishizes) black/brown men but really don't like asians, presumably tied up in racial/gender stereotypes.

          • bidenicecream
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            1 year ago

            Yeah, despite the racism against black men, they are still viewed as sexual, albeit in a more "primal" and "animalistic" way which is rife with its own issues.

    • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]
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      1 year ago

      I knew this shitty comic is complete bullshit as soon as I saw that checkmark next to Black. Absolutely nobody who isn't Black is online dating other Black people while simultaneously unchecking Asian for extremely obvious racist reasons. Do I need to link that notorious now-deleted OKCupid article about how race affects the messages you get? Notice how surprise, surprise, Black people get shitted on more than any other racial group once again. But this simple fact is awfully inconvenient with the particular narrative this comic is trying to espouse, that of the Asian man being uniquely disadvantaged in dating.

      Why are so many people here falling for some shitty comic shitted out by some probably-not-even-Asian incel?

      • bidenicecream
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        1 year ago

        I mean Asian men are ranked lowest by women, and black women are ranked lowest by men (according to that OKCupid article you were talking about):

        Rudder wrote that user data showed that most men on the site rated black women as less attractive than women of other races and ethnicities. Similarly, Asian men fell at the bottom of the preference list for most women.

        https://www.npr.org/2018/01/09/575352051/least-desirable-how-racial-discrimination-plays-out-in-online-dating

    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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      1 year ago

      People would always ask why I am single. I try to explain but get similar responses...

      "Using race as an excuse... Pathetic!"

      The responses mostly came from white fellows. They had never experienced how it felt to be a "minority".

        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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          1 year ago

          You negated yourself, twice, so no you didn't. Next time try reading the comic and thinking a bit before saying shit, whitey.

            • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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              1 year ago

              but most still manage to find partners.

              but there are clearly deeper issues here.

              Keep going

                • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                  1 year ago

                  Your lack of understanding is entirely on you. You inject no nuance here and if you had bothered to read and comprehend the comic then you would know your platitudinal bullshit comment is utterly irrelevant to the specific situation put forth by its author. Just another stupid insufferable angloid giving his unasked brain diarrhoea when confronted by something it cannot comprehend.

    • GaveUp [she/her]
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      1 year ago

      I think it really depends on where they live

      I've only lived in extremely diverse liberal cities so I've had the exact same observation as you but I couldn't even imagine growing up in cities 80+% white as a minority

  • DaringToday [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    Yeah you guys are all going off anecdotes so fyi my asian best friend i lived with for a while was a 5'1" stud with a small dick it doesn't matter.

    You guys are talking about guys studying super hard for degrees which for many people means nolifing it.

    • DaringToday [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      And if you're gonna be fucking weird about it yeah he looked south east asian, not pale. Yes he fucked some asian chicks. Not predominantly. Let's air it all out folks. Let's talk about how much ass we get. I could tell you things that would shock you. I did extremely unislamic things with a somali woman for the last couple months. You're not ready.

      • DaringToday [he/him]
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        1 year ago

        Can't believe how low you guys have sunk. Just pathetic losers all of you. And stuck up to the bitter end

          • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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            1 year ago

            Fall hard for what? What is the evil propaganda being pushed here? It's a comic about a lonely and socially alienated individual reminiscing about his race and romantic struggles within the context of his own life.

            Also

            Joined 3h ago

            :reddit-logo:

              • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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                1 year ago

                Double-check the sources first ffs.

                What sources though, actually?

                There is absolutely nothing provided with this image that would give us any definite indication of where it came from, or who made it.

                It came from a suspended reddit user who spouted race essentialism talking points on different dating subtreddits and the comic was eventually cited in an incel wiki of some sort.

                How would you actually know any of that unless you were, yourself, already in-deep with whatever community this comic came from?

                If I’m reading about romantic struggles I’d read Mishima.

                We talking about this guy?

                  • BarnieusCalgar [he/him]
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                    1 year ago

                    I just reverse searched with google images. Found the username and the former threads he used to post. Found the incel wiki through it. It’s really easy tbh.

                    Why the hell would I do that, entirely unprompted?

                    That accusatory tone won’t work on me lol

                    I mean it clearly did something, given that you felt compelled to address it.

              • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                1 year ago

                :gold-demsoc:

                WAOW!!! Sure showed me!! I'll give you plebbit gold for that insightful well thought out intelligent comment! Damn I better get back to work at the woman hating factory where all the people who disagree with you live... I'll give you an update first for your bravery kind gentlesir

        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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          1 year ago

          YOU ARE ALL PATHETIC LOSERS FOR EMPATHIZING WITH SOMEONES LIFE STRUGGLES!

          PAY MORE ATTENTION TO ME AND ALL THE SEX I HAVE YOU STUCK UP FOOLS!!

          Uh huh do you want a trophy for that or...

            • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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              1 year ago

              WAHHHHHHH!!!! Everyone who points out what a self absorbed insufferable scumbag I am is an INCEL!!! WAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!

              Cry more

              • DaringToday [he/him]
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                1 year ago

                You are literally defending an incel rage comic. I bet you're a fully-grown adult doing this stuff too

                • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                  1 year ago

                  sniff dad there's a monster in the closet you're not LISTENING to me WAHHHHH!!!

                  Please show me where your ideological boogeyman is lurking in that comic.

                  • DaringToday [he/him]
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                    1 year ago

                    Shouldn't you be accusing someone of defending Andrew Tate right now? 😘 Cognitive dissonance tonight champ?

                    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                      1 year ago

                      I cant answer the question... Shit, what do I do.... OH YEAH! MUH EBIC ANDREW TATERINO NAMEDROP, THAT WILL SHOW HIM!!!

                      redditor.exe has crashed, catastrophic failure

                              • DaringToday [he/him]
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                                1 year ago

                                See this is just further proof it's you. The intense projection, the insistence, the doubling down, the emote obsession.

                                I've got you this time huh, now we both know you believe the same shit as the MRAs and incels which you fixate on and post about all day.

                                • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                  1 year ago

                                  :miyazaki-laugh: please go on, your delusional bullshit is comedy gold son

                                  See this is just further proof it’s you.

                                  Kono Dio da!

                                        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                          1 year ago

                                          Got me there son, better get back to grilling and talking about th good ol days when these dang smartphones weren't around...

                                          :grillman:

                                          • DaringToday [he/him]
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                                            1 year ago

                                            You don't grill. There's nothing going on with you man. You're a weeb, a gamer, a glorified TMZ watcher. You try to win online. That's why a rage comic by a racist incel resonates with you.

                                            • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                              1 year ago

                                              Everyone who has more empathy than me is a RACIST and a GAMER and a sniff WEEABOO INCEL... WAHHHHH!!!!!

                                              I'm a gamer forever I'm gaming whatever, together with my lads till the day I die

                                                    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                                      1 year ago

                                                      thinks everyone who clowns on him with internet slang is trying to be deep

                                                      :che-laugh: what the fuck

                                                        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                                          1 year ago

                                                          My brother in Allah (SWT) not one of the comments I made to milk you successfully for lulz directly addressed the comic. I really cant stop because you are that much of an oblivious lolcow, it's really sad. If you had actually bothered to read the comic then you would realise how stupid you sound, but no, you don't have a working brain and so you just keep dogmatically claiming that the author is an incel like a broken record based on no textual evidence whatsoever. You are a cult of one, a sychophant and a bully who tries to rag on people who you see as lesser than you for their lack of romantic experience to make up for whatever psychic anguish is eating away at your rotten soul. And yet due to your lack of self awareness and critical thinking you end up accomplishing absolutely nothing but embarrassing yourself. It's tragic, you stand for nothing and no one but your shitty ego.

                                                      • DaringToday [he/him]
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                                                        1 year ago

                                                        This isn't a joke man. You need to get away from this mindset. The shit in this comic is distorted and hateful.

                                                        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                                                          1 year ago

                                                          concern trolling

                                                          Yeah no how about you stop jumping at shadows and fuck off back to reddit. You can reply if you want because you're programmed to but don't expect a response, you had plenty of chances to have a productive discussion without embarassing yourself and I have work to pretend to do. See you next Thursday.

                        • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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                          1 year ago

                          Yes I think about the media I consume so I make sensible contribution to internet discussion, unlike you, who doesn't use his brain for anything other than which Funko pop to add to his collection first.

  • aaro [they/them, she/her]
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    1 year ago

    if you're considering coming in here and bashing OP for the sole reason that this post expresses male frustration at the difficulty of forming relationships, simply ✨don't✨

    let people feel things. If you legitimately can't tell the difference between this and "women owe me sex" or "I can't get a date so I'm going to go shoot up a mall" then you should probably just unsub this comm and never come back because you're not equipped to function here.

    If you're here to make a valid critique of the comic, including it's origins or any particular phrasing or themes that have problematic traits, sure, you're absolutely welcome here. We love crit.

  • gaycomputeruser [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    My friend is Hawaiin and he's struggled with the same things. I really wish I could do more to help. He is a great guy, a bit awkward (as you'd expect of someone who doesn't get to be around potential romantic partners a lot) and is genuinely a great person. Many of his friends are queer, and he's always been very anti incel. He too struggles with this same problem. If you're going to say this doesn't exist, especially in amerikkka of all places, then you need to get a grip on what intersectionality means.

    In response to many of the comments here: "wow I can't believe the perdon who was ostracized when growing up and has minimal contact with romantic partners might be a bit awkward". If you are going to purely blame a systemic problem on the person then you should get off a communist/anarchist forum.

  • dildoofconsquences [none/use name]
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    1 year ago

    Comic reeks of incel vibes. Like I can agree that it’s fucked up that it’s legal for white people to adopt kids but cmon guy, your sexual frustration is a capital You problem. And frankly your identity as an east Asian makes you barely poc to begin with, like you are only allowed in the club because you have some leverage. We are still waiting for justice for Latasha Harlins.

    • CliffordBigRedDog [he/him]
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      1 year ago

      frankly your identity as an east Asian makes you barely poc to begin with, like you are only allowed in the club because you have some leverage.

      Lol

          • CliffordBigRedDog [he/him]
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            1 year ago

            This whole thread proves Lysenko while not right, was necessary because the alternative is weird pseudoscience about cumskins getting that vitamin d because of their fucking hair being yellow.

            Classic

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