I'll start.

There really is no point to monogamy other than to feed one's ego and aspiring to have your own children over adopting is its own form of eugenics.

  • bewts [he/him,comrade/them]
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    4 years ago

    I got one that I'm probably going to regret posting. BDSM stuff weirds me out and I have a suspicion that its so popular because society is fucked up and nobody has any real agency.

    • Parysian [they/them]
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      4 years ago

      This was basically the topic of the shitty essay Bernie wrote in college that they tried to smear him with a few times.

      Honestly though I think this is probably reasonable; our desires are affected by our social climate, I don't know why sex and kink would be exempt. That being said, having partaken in a good amount of light bdsm, its pretty fun when both partners are into it, regardless of what motivates it.

    • Owl [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      This used to bother me, but eventually I realized that my entire personality is shaped by the society I grew up in. There's no reason to think sex stuff should somehow be the one magic thing that comes entirely from some concept of the self that's uncorrupted by society.

    • ArmedHostage [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      It's fine, it's just kink stuff.

      You almost certainly also have kinks that in other times or in other places would be thought as weird - like, they'd all be thinking "wtf is with these 2020 people and their obsession with tits, tits aren't even the sexiest part of a person". The 90s had a weird obsession with small asses on women and now it's all about curvy ladies for example.

    • Perplexiglass [they/them]
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      4 years ago

      Is BDSM that popular? I don't know the numbers, but I think it's still pretty niche. And then to what degree? Like being blindfolded versus someone stomping on your bits. I always think about this question with pedos. Like is there some trauma that triggers the fetish, brain chemistry, sociopathology, capitalism, or some genetic disposition?

      • bewts [he/him,comrade/them]
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        4 years ago

        It seems to be pretty popular, lots of folks on dating sites put in their profile that they're a dom or a sub or whatever.

        The second one. Extreme pain and the mommy / daddy stuff is not for me.

        I'm not married to this take and I'm not fuck scientist or anything so I'm gonna let the last part hang. I definitely don't fault anyone who is into it and I don't think its any kind of "defect" or anything.

    • xxtrash [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      I find it to be a good stress reliever and an excellent way to explore and reinforce boundaries/trust. Our fucked up society def plays a part tho, half my fantasies are just me coping with trauma from being treated like a financial object growing up.