Why would you have a child rather than adopt?
It’s quite a long and difficult process with lots of paperwork, meetings, and scrutiny. The barriers to entry are much lower for DIY children... no one has an accidental adoption
What are you serious, brown children are adopted for less?
Fucking hell, life sucks dude.
Oooh this is a good one. You should post later in the day for most interaction.
Bonus points if a struggle session on foreign adoption transpires!
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I fucking hate it. I bet fifty dollars in fucking bitcoin. I give up, I can't tell which one of you is senpai.
I like who I am, and I like my wife. I think our kids will be cute.
Anti-natalism is a dead end, because unless you want to engage in eco-fascist forced sterilization, people will always have kids.
you don’t need to force-sterilize people, the birth rate is already below replacement in a lot of places (and I think that’s a good thing). Let people have kids if they want to, let them have cheap birth control if they want that.
the adoption process is extremely convoluted and difficult, while having sex exactly 1 time is pretty easy
If my natural born child is eaten by a sea monster I will adopt the child it died protecting from said sea monster
I could be wrong but I think this another part of capitalism that has pervaded our society since forever. I think everything that feels 'natural' is some unchecked thing that props up the system somehow. Like with having biological kids it is seen as like a thing for inheritance hence why words like bastards are bad now.
I'm of the idea that family is the people your struggle along side with. I can't speak for my trans comrades but am reminded of the stories I've read of how a lot of them where adopted by older drag kings and queens when they were finding themselves and I think that's beautiful.
For myself I never knew my biological father but my dad that raised me is the only dad I have or will call dad. For these reasons I don't place to much importance on having my own kids. I suspect a lot of other people are like me but don't want confront this for fear that there relationships would crumble, that the love would go away.
Biological bond is like a promise that you are gonna be able to love your kid but I think this is wrong. Love needs to develop otherwise why would so many parents turn away their biological kids for various reason.
Mind you I talking about my own experiences and things I've thought about over the years. Still need to iron somethings out and maybe if I read more theory I could say this more better.
