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  • HumanBehaviorByBjork [any, undecided]
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    4 years ago

    99% of people are bad at video games, and that's fine because video games aren't really consequential. you're not inherently more pathetic than other people. you just currently have a lower emotional tolerance for failure because you've come to interpret the tiniest mistake as evidence of your irredeemable loserishness. you expect things that you can conceive of as simple to be easy to execute, but quite a lot of seemingly simple things aren't actually easy, and that includes the long, difficult process of emotional transformation and self-love that you and all human beings are capable of, given the right circumstances.

    I have ADHD, which gives me ample opportunity to find difficulty accomplishing tasks that I see others executing easily. I don't feel like I'm good at much. All I can really do is not demand from myself that I achieve effortlessly, to make peace with the effort and continue ahead with it anyway, even if the rewards aren't immediate and obvious.

  • SteveHasBunker [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    How old are you? I was kinda in this funk till I was like 28 and then I started getting

  • congressbaseballfan [she/her]
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    4 years ago

    You’re not pathetic. I fit this description as well lmao. Ok maybe we are a little pathetic, but you are worthwhile and probably also have adhd or depression.

  • 101 [undecided]
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    4 years ago

    It's a complete myth that anything like an "adult" exists. At the very least, I've never met one.

  • SpookyVanguard64 [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    ADHD Gang ADHD Gang

    For real though, this shit sucks. It gets better with a diagnosis and meds (and coping strategies). But it still sucks.

    Edit: As someone else pointed out, Dyspraxia could be in play. ADHD effects coordination and reaction timing, and can make me feel clumsy at times. But developmental coordination disorder can be bad enough that people with it can have problems just trying to tie their own shoes or get dressed, and that's orders of magnitude more debilitating than anything I've experienced.

    Solidarity with anyone with Dyspraxia. While we're at it, solidarity with anyone who has any other type of neurodivergence, no matter how severe it is. And solidarity regardless if you've even gotten an official diagnosis or not. Also plugging /c/neurodiverse for people who don't know it exists.

  • Leon_Grotsky [comrade/them]
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    4 years ago

    At least you can follow this thought up with "and the underpinnings of our society seeks to continue producing failchildren just like me."

  • 3rdPartisan [none/use name]
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    4 years ago

    This level of self reflection is not childish. There is no arrival, anyone claiming to have arrived is prob still on their decedent starting block. Follow passion, you fucking rock

  • Lerios [hy/hym]
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    4 years ago

    a lot of people in here are telling you about ADHD, which could absolutely be relevant, but

    physical competence of a child

    anything that requires skill is automatically out

    serious solidarity from a Dyspraxic comrade on all that. It might not help much to know, but no one notices or cares about that anywhere near as much as you do.

  • hamouy [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    The very recognition of the fact turns you into more than just a child. What divides a man from a boy is struggle, and even if you, by your own standards, aren't ready to call yourself a man yet, you are more than just a manchild.