Hey there, all my life I have been surrounded by conservatives as I just finished high school at a right-wing catholic school and my entire family is republican. For some time I felt a bit alienated from my environment, but I ended up building great friendships with people whose political views aren’t unable for me to get past.
However I’m starting college in a few weeks and I’m attending an Ivy, I’m not gonna disclose which but it’s got a reputation for being very snobbish and I am afraid I will meet but frat guys with Epstein-vibes-dads and just people that I really do not identify with, and I don’t mean exclusively on the political sphere. I am very tolerant in regards to mental health matters, as I struggle with those myself, I’m a raging stoner and softcore psychonaut and I’m very naturally physically unattractive.
Maybe I shouldn’t have applied there in the first place, but I plan on going to medical school so I thought couldn’t not take the opportunity. Anyway any tips on how to survive 4 years of college away from my family and friends and surrounded by people I will potentially not be able to establish meaningful bonds with? And where do you suggest I try to meet friends instead (I’ll be out of state and on the opposite coast from home)
I know colleges tend to be very diverse by design, so I am aware that I am considering the worst case scenario that I think and hope won’t come to be, but as it is a possibility I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for what might be the loneliest time of my life. I mean I’m obviously keeping in touch with everyone, but I can’t help but think that that doesn’t replace fun parties and nights out especially because they will most likely be out there in their chosen colleges meeting new people.
So what do you suggest? Thanks in advance.
My gf also attends an undisclosed ivy league with a reputation for Epstein-vibes. She has found a ton of people who aren't snobbish or give off bad vibes. I am absolutely positive you will find people you get along with
I’m going to be honest and tell you that there are radical networks there already, Ivy League doctors are a hot commodity for tendencies that take things seriously
Give it a year. If you don’t like it there, transfer. If you’re determined to stick it out to get the degree so you can go to bed school or whatever, just put your head down and do it. You’ll be fine because you have a goal, and this is the shit you have to eat to get there.
Meet people by joining clubs. Don’t let your freshman dorm assignment set the limits of your experience.
I went to a big name school and fucking hated it. It was a bunch of rich dickheads just wanted to be bankers and make money. I stayed there for way too long, but then wound up transferring to a really shitty state school that I loved. And now I’m pretty happy.
Thank you. I’ve been trying to remind myself that this is not the only path available, ideally i do find my niche of people and have a good time but if i don’t then there’s nothing wrong with transferring. Right now my biggest issue is sort of coming to terms with the uncertainty as I cannot possibly predict how my experience you’ll be, I guess I’m gonna try to not let those anxious thoughts eat away at me and just ship in and head for whatever life’s planned for me.
To be honest, probably the most important thing you should worry about right now is not getting fucking coronavirus. The school shit will work itself out, it’s normal to be nervous before you start college, especially when it’s far from home.
I went somewhere like that, you'll probably find the rich assholes mainly enjoy the company of other rich assholes. There will be good people as well, you just need to find them, just do activities that will attract them.
It can really get you down living in a town with people who buy bottles of grape juice on a Tuesday night that cost more than a weeks wages, especially if you have to work while at uni. Just try and channel the rage rather than letting it eat you lol.
As someone that got a scholarship to one of the most bourgie boarding high schools in my country, and managed to graduate relatively in tact, here's my experience:
The drifting apart from existing friends will happen, even if you keep in touch a lot. Not the worst thing in the world, but something to keep in mind.
Not all rich kids are the same. While there will be plenty of "large sons/daughters" and rich assholes/Epstein vibes people, there are also some bourgie kids who like to do a lot of fun shit. One of my best friends at the time was a rich kid who liked to smoke weed, experiment with growing it (legal in my country) and a lot of other cool shit I won't mention to avoid self incrimination.
If you find you just can't relate to these people, look out for others with a similar background to you. I'm sure there will be at least a few people who are not trust fund kids that you can talk to or meet.
Anyways that's all from my experience and hope it helps a bit.
I'll second joining clubs. If you have any social hobbies that's often a good way to meet people, especially people who are drawn to that hobby for similar reasons. And even if your hobbies aren't especially social, pursuing interesting things will still give you interesting things to talk about, which helps when getting to know people. I don't have much experience with Ivies specifically, but take some time to explore the campus and the area. Find an alt weekly newspaper and see what's happening. There's often quite a lot going on in college towns.
