Attractiveness really does matter when it comes to getting dates. Lots of dating advice say's "personality is the most important thing" which is true for a relationship but it is vastly easier to get a first date if you're good looking
A good personality can absolutely level someone up "by 4 points" (I hate the 10 point scale shit but w/e).
The issue with it is that you have to have to be extroverted, gregarious, and personable as a baseline, not just a "good and nice person" if you want to redeem those points. Never going to happen for me, and I would guess that 90% of this site is "introvert nerds" who will need to rely on conventional attractiveness for the most part.
It's still important to be "good, caring, and nice" and all that since you'll start losing attractiveness really quick without those things. They may even be a single bonus "point" in there, but social skills are much more powerful.
Maybe I'm just built different, but that's not how it works at all for me. It's not appearance, it's my perception of who they are that determines how attracted I am to someone. Appearance often determines how I perceive someone, especially if I don't know much about them, but in those cases additional information can very quickly change things. And when appearance is enough for my brain to know if I'm interested or not, it's doesn't seem to line up with what is considered traditionally attractive at all.
Like often I can't tell if I'm attracted to someone from just a picture. I have to see a video or see them in person, I need more context. Habits and mannerisms are a huge part of what makes someone immediately attractive to me. And if someone displays certain personality traits I will immediately lose all interest and be unable to think of them as attractive ever again.
I've spoken to many people online and a few in person who have similar experiences, but I don't know how common that is exactly.
i think overall that women are more accepting of other peoples physical "flaws" than men.
Hmmm, idk. As someone who grew up as a “girl,” my appearance was (and still is sometimes!) policed way more by the women in my life than it was by the men (the men also did some policing, just not as much).
i see what you mean, i guess i mostly meant when looking for a relationship women are more accepting of "flaws" and men tend to be more shallow. i understand what you mean about "girls" being mean to each other, i mostly saw that secondhand via my sister and her friends. they did seem to have fights that would rotate through the group.
There are very few objectively ugly people. Most of attractiveness is hygiene, styling, and personality.
attractiveness def helps getting the initial date, but personality is what will be the deciding factor of whether you're just a hookup or short fling, or something substantial (for most people).
I've pulled some pretty hot guys who had shit attitudes and personalities and I would never date them long term because we are just not on the same page.
for real, that make no fucking sense whatsoever. Porn makes it look so fun cause they did 20 enemas first.
butthole has many nerve endings
the enemas are for the inside fucking. when you eat ass, you're mostly on the outside, so as long as the butthole-haver has properly cleaned their ass, there's no issue.
ehhh gonna pass on licking where the giardia comes out but hey you do you
See I agree with this but in the reverse, which is to say that all sex is fundamentally gross when you stop and think about it, but sex rocks so you just gotta be gross too :big-cool:
politics is only found in the "controversy" region of america. Otherwise it's just sparkling society
a lot of people say that american football is a better experience through the TV than at the stadium. dunno how true that is cuz i've never been to a game, but ticket prices do make the atmosphere suck for a lot of teams.
a lot of people say that american football is a better experience through the TV than at the stadium. dunno how true that is cuz i've never been to a game, but ticket prices do make the atmosphere suck for a lot of teams.
You ever seen rugby? It is like they took the good parts of football and made a game out of it.
Football is football. American football is not football but just boring rugby
The English have mastered thebart if making the ritual. Like cricket? Awful game. Objectively. Great excuse to hang out and day drink
Similar soccer is about day drinking, singing songs. Getting in fights, and talkijg shit at the office
made an account just to reply to this lol
for me it has to do with a few things:- it's awesome to see the most athletic people in the planet doing shit.
- it's a lot cooler if you actually practice the sports that you are watching. it gives you a better insight into what is happening and you get a better feeling of how impressive the things that elite athletes are able to pull off.
- it fills a competitive urge if you're that type of person.
- i think this is the really big one. it's kind of like a TV show, probably a reality show. you have lots of "plot lines", "narratives" and drama. it's a socially accepted way for men to be able to gossip and do traditionally feminine things in a certain way. it also feels like watching a TV show in certain ways as i said before, so you have things like "is Tom Brady the best to ever do it?", "can X team stop sucking/get their first playoff win in Y years", etc.
obviously those aren't all the reasons why it's cool but they are my main ones i'd say.
i enjoy american football specifically because of how much depth it has. definitely feels like the sport where coaching and the mental aspect of the game is the most important.
football (futbol/soccer/whatever) kinda sucks right now because they are trying to monetize every last drop of it and it's making it worse. players are being overworked as hell. another thing that sucks is that because soccer is very much an international sport there's an element of 'sporting imperialism' so to speak where even though South American nations are probably the best at producing quality players in the world their national leagues are pretty bad because all their top talent goes abroad.thank you for coming to my ted talk
I’m a sports guy, feels like I’m the last leftist alive who actually is, lol. Although I’m not into American sports particularly.
most major sports are unionized too. i still like baseball, come at me. we need distractions from life. maybe im not as much of a commie as i thought.
people who need something to talk about with other bores and an excuse to party on the weekends.
I mean that describes most of the non-sports activities too. Gotta kill like 70 years somehow.
it's a shared experience that is easy to obtain. yea you can read theory or whatever and try to talk about it with people, but they'll just be listening unless youre hanging out with some real nerds.
What I hate about sports is that they're inherently bloodsports, but everybody pretends like that isn't true. Like, we know that CTE and other side effects of years of physical abuse/drugs takes a massive toll on athletes. So I say why half ass it? Let's go back to barbaric gladiatorial combat.
This but unironically. We should replace fencing with gladatorial combat, but make it safe the way fencing is safer than actual swordfighting
Don't replace fencing, replace something that's further away from bloodsport like soccer where no one even gets injured because they take a dive and start crying if anyone gets within three feet of them
Soccer is the best and most popular sport in the world though. Nobody watches fencing
Soccer is the most boring sport in the world and is only popular because you only need a relatively light sphere-shaped object to play and practice. If I wanted to sit and watch nothing happen for an eternity so I could be too bored and distracted for the 10 seconds where something happens, I'd tune in to the livestream of the pitch drop experiment.
I watch fencing because it's fun, the action is short and easy to follow, you get down time between points to process what just happened, and people are getting stabbed.
Don't understand why people think nothing happens in soccer. There's not much scoring but there a lot of other stuff to watch and appreciate if you have even a basic understanding of the game.
Fencing is objectively boring to watch bc it happens to fast to see what's going on, at least on tv
I was not being ironic and it should not be made safe. Give the death drive what it wants by turning on your TV two nights a week to see ritualized violence in a more honest form.
Nah I don't want people to get hurt. That's the worst part of sports
I like stop and go sports better than continuous action sports. With continuous action, nothing interesting is happening 95% of the time but you have to pay attention even though it's boring and hypnotic because if you look away for 30 seconds one of the three interesting plays will happen and you will miss it.
Soccer is particularly egregious for this since it's an hour of people running back and forth and there will only end up being one scoring play the whole time, so 30 seconds of action that affect the outcome of the game in 3600 seconds of playtime. Would honestly rather watch track, where it's the same premise (people running around accomplishing nothing) but since it's linear you can tell when something interesting is about to happen and focus on it more.
Discontinuous sports are much more watchable because you're guaranteed that something is going to happen every time a play starts. Then you get a little back where you can process what just happened and think about what's going to happen next.
Ad breaks suck, but that's a Capitalism problem and not a sports problem.
American football is like literally the worst sport you could pick for that argument. It's like saying chess is just guys moving wood around. Technically true, but the strategic elements on display make it fascinating for anyone watching with knowledge of how the game works. And in football you obviously combine that with how athletically capable your players are of carrying out these strategies.
Soccer or Hockey are mostly just people running around. Football has all kinds of weird niche shit that makes it fascinating.
Rewind the internet. No more social media. Humans don't need to be this connected.
Also that our monkey brains are designed to handle so many choices a day, and most of us are going 200% or more over the limit.
Forming an elaborate ass eating train as the celebration of our communes one year anniversary
Cats are more affectionate and loyal then dogs once you earn their respect
Babies aren't cute, not even ugly-cute. They're loud and smelly sensory overload potatoes. I don't understand what people like about human babies.
Baby animals are way better, have you ever seen a baby elephant? They're sublime, absolutely fucking charming. Baby ducklings? Precious little marshmallow peeps. Kittens? I would die for them. Baby humans? Farty little drool aliens that screech constantly.
Live stage plays are more fun than movies and I hate that they've been branded as being pretentious shit for rich people. Same goes for dance.
I love live performance and going to see them isn't nearly as bourgeois as people think. If you buy your tickets right as the show is starting you can get decent seats for just a few bucks more then going to a movie. I've gotten third and fourth row seats for like $20 at major productions.
the most bourgeois thing about them is that the audience is mostly gray hairs. i went to one recently and if you took me and my partners age out of the audience the average age was about 70
I wish I could understand what the actors are saying, they kinda suck if you have an auditory processing disorder
counterpoint, stage plays are fun, but there are just so many more and interesting things you can do with film as an artform than you can with stage.
dance is great, I love a good ballet.
