Edit: Don’t just downvote and run away, make your liberalism known. If you have an issue with either of these, please let them be known in the comments. C'mon, let's duke it out. :)

For the libs shouting "but muh anonymity", you should have zero issue using the "any pronoun" tag as you will be addressed with any pronouns regardless of whether or not you have it set. The point of having them sitewide is for everyone to use them to normalize explicitly stating one's pronouns as a means of not forcing trans people to request to be addressed with basic respect. The amount of pushback on a meaningful step toward trans inclusivity in this community is pretty fucking disheartening, not gonna lie.

Folks seem to be using the NSFW tag for the spoiler effect on memes, and while it's a funny use of it, it's causing the intended use of the NSFW tag to lose its value. This isn't r/WatchPeopleDie. Personally, I was exposed to that sort of content at a younger age and am desensitized to it now, but not everyone is like me in that regard and I'm probably more fucked up than I like to think for having been as exposed to it as I was. We currently don't have another way of tagging content, so please be considerate and put "[NSFL]" or content warnings in the title so people know they'll be looking at some heavy shit. Not a lot to ask. Please do not start ironically putting "[NSFL]" or other content warnings in the post title. You're more creative than that, I promise.

    • qublic69 [none/use name]
      5·
      4 years ago

      If select mods/admins could assign custom pronouns to users, then it would be possible to have pronoun request sticky threads in relevant communities.
      I do not think it is possible for the current system to do both: give people all combinations they want, and avoid some combinations being used as jokes.

      Some sincere identities are used as insults by others. Many slurs also function as pronouns, and while those should obviously not be allowed here, those do illustrate the contradiction you are dealing with here.
      It could be worth taking /r/BlackPeopleTwitter as an example here, they actually verify that some users are allies or have the racial identity that they claim to have.

        • qublic69 [none/use name]
          1·
          4 years ago

          /r/BPT also verifies allies, forearm picture is only used because that takes less time and effort.
          But you are missing the point, I mention /r/BPT because they show the principle of identities being co-opted for trolling, and they have been very successful at combating that.
          I was not suggesting that you copy their methods.

          It would be only vetting pronouns when those are custom requests besides provided defaults.
          So only things like cat/girl, xe/xim, zir/zey, where selecting those pronouns might otherwise be abused.

          That would not be a task for admins, but rather for mods of relevant communities to figure out themselves.
          It takes only a cursory glance at post history to decide if somebody is sincere or trolling in most cases.

          It is not about verifying gender identity, but verifying that they are not low effort trolling.
          Even on /r/BPT people could fabricate pictures to get verified, it is not about getting perfect accuracy.
          Quantity has a quality all its own.

          Mods could require some minimum posting history, other users could vouch, figure out on discord, those details would be up to mods themselves.
          They could adjust their approach depending upon how many custom pronoun requests those threads actually get.

          Again this would only be applicable to pronouns that cannot simply be added to the drop-down list.
          And it is only for filtering out trolls.

          Another example /r/science also has custom flair that gets verified by mods: https://www.reddit.com/r/science/wiki/flair
          That is effective both when number of requests is limited (/r/science, people using neopronouns) or verification process is simple (/r/BPT in most cases).

          Another illustrative case is /r/polandball where users can set their own flair, but mods also award custom trophy flairs when users win competitions.

      • the_river_cass [she/her]
        1·
        4 years ago

        If select mods/admins could assign custom pronouns to users, then it would be possible to have pronoun request sticky threads in relevant communities.

        this is what's happening right now.