As a man trying to get laid with women, I’m constantly having to play games and lean into patriarchal convention because that is really the only way to be half way successful.

The song and dance is mind numbingly stupid but you have to do it if you want to get your pp touched. Nuke cishet dating from orbit, I need a director’s cut, a rerelease. I’m convinced no one actually likes this.

  • TechnoUnionTypeBeat [he/him, they/them]
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    5 months ago

    As someone autistic/ND I swear cishet dating was impossible, it was only when I started to explore my queer identity that dating actually started to work out

    Cisheteronormative dating culture feels completely at odds with neurodivergence, though I couldn't put any exact words to why

    • nothx [he/him]
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      5 months ago

      I never attributed my failures at dating to being in part due to my ND. I lucked out that my wife has the same type of ND and we clicked immediately.

      That being said, it’s definitely harder and more intimidating as a ND person to partake in the dating scene.

    • Angel [any]
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      5 months ago

      My darling 💚 is a queer, neurodivergent cis woman, and as an ND transfem, I honestly could not imagine being with anyone who is NT. Obviously, not all ND people I've tried to be romantic with have been compatible with me, but NT people often seem like they're from another planet to me.