"Wow Hexbears are so mean because they have pronouns in their names"
proceeds to use language that even Fox News hosts would balk at
Remembering when I saw a blahaj user complaining about feeling so on edge when around hexbears because she was afraid she'd say something racist or ableist by accident and get dogpiled lmao
making people feel uncomfortable and scared to be openly racist is good actuallyIt's not even that bad. I called out someone this morning for misgendering my partner and they went whoops my bad not sure why I even did that. And everything is fine now. Make a mistake, be called out on it, admit your mistake, learn from it, and everything is totally fine. Shit happens nobody is perfect and nobody is expecting perfection.
Where the real dog piling happens is when someone makes a mistake, is called out on it, and doesn't have the humility to admit they made a mistake. The double and triple down occurs and that's when the dunking truly begins.
So basically anyone complaining that Hexbears make them scared are just racist/sexist/ablest/you name it ist and refuses to try not to be those things. We're totally chill if folks want to try to be better people and are willing to actually try
The double and triple down occurs
Because they didn't make a mistake, they're defending how they really think.
Having grown up in a white household that was becoming middle class with two parents who were pretty poor the academic success and thus negation of identity was quite important. Faults were not addressed, but ignored with neighbors but also within the family, status was to be kept up. So call outs were seen not as only attack against personhood but self itself.
Oh yeah, this is how my family is too. They'll say some asinine shit and the second you call them out about it they shut it down because "well you're being POLITICAL and we just won't agree on that so we shouldn't talk about it." It's ridiculous and one of the reasons I don't talk to my family much anymore
Politics is when minorities demand rights, and the less rights they already have, the more political it is. And if it's a minority I haven't heard of, that's trolling.
When your native language doesn't have gendered pronouns and you're afraid of misgendering by accident due to subconsciously defaulting to ”he” in English:
I genuinely used to make that mistake even with cis people. I'd forget calling everyone it isn't acceptable lol.
Though on the internet the best idea is to double check all comments you're writing. If you make a mistake still, you can just apologize and edit it. Don't be too spooked.
I was mostly joking, but am in favor of genderless pronouns for all languages to eliminate this problem.
she was afraid she'd say something racist or ableist by accident
Americans are such bumbling cartoon simpletons its unreal LMAO, like who else could have a problem so perfectly dumb. Imagine being like this and still demanding to feel comfortable everywhere you go.
If it's the same person who said that stuff to me, she went on to say she genders all strangers he/him by default. On the instance full of trans women. And the admin defended her.
I'm pretty sure it wasn't the same person ngl, blahaj just seems to have loads of accidental racists and bigots on it
Oh, and a chaser who came onto me in PMs, then commented transphobic shit on my posts and tried to dox me
Oh god that's awful, I had a chaser be really weird at me too and follow me from post to post calling me "m'lady" and had someone accuse me of being chaserphobic - was your chaser a teenage Vaush fan by any chance, because we might have got the same one
Ngl before defederation I was really trying to push for the two instances staying together but now I'm increasingly souring on blahaj for their poor moderation
No idea if they were a vaush fan. They were very firm in their belief that trans people shouldn't be forced to engage in politics, and that's why they harassed random trans people who don't like Blahaj trying to get them to debate the politics of the issue.
Oh god just from the sound of them I think I know who you mean, they might be the person who accused me of being chaserphobic after I politely told a chaser I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone who talked about trans people so fetishisticly like they did
a chaser is a cis person who fetishises and objectifies trans people, frequently in a way that's pretty transphobic once you look under the surface. A lot of the time though they're able to avoid being labelled as transphobes and postion themselves as allies because they agree that trans people have a right to exist, and don't hate trans people the same way - they're basically the mirror image of people who used to say shit like "i support gay rights because it means i get to see women kissing in public and have threesomes with bisexual girls". A pretty common element is also them taking advantage of the fact that a lot of trans people are societally vulnerable, frequently face social rejection and so are more likely to accept any form of "positive" attention, even if it comes from someone who just wants to fuck them, need money for gender affirming treatment, etcetera - so this ranges from chasers getting with trans people because trans people are more likely have lower standards on the mild end of the spectrum to on the other end, threatening to withhold gender affirming treatment from them, taking advantage of their economic situation to coerce them etcetera.
sometimes though the term is used incorrectly to just refer to people who are just attracted to trans people, without it being fetishistic or controlling
tl;dr: they're basically just guys who would be sexpats but they want to stay in the first world, so looked for a different vulnerable group at home and settled on trans people
It's really convenient, I like when they make threads full of screenshots of all the choice dunks on them
When do we even talk about SPAM? I haven't seen it, and if someone was talking about SPAM they would probably include a CW for meat so this user could easily avoid it.
The One Shot.
Like I love everything about this new emoji, even the game's name can be used as a pun here lmao
Genuine question, why do I keep seeing people reference “hexbears”?
Like, I know it’s a Lemmy instance, but is it more than that? Why do I keep seeing it referenced as if it’s more than just an instance?
Because we weren't federated for like three years due to differences in the fork of lemmy that hexbear runs on we developed a very different culture to the rest of fedi in isolation and now that we're federated we exist as a distinctly different bloc to the rest of lemmy (which has pretty much been overrun with default Reddit culture but a bit less right wing).
Also we're all communists and make fun of right wingers a lot so we've got a reputation for dunking on people now
The only time I have ever logged off was when the federation broke the login
The only time I've logged out is when hexbear logs me out
I shit you not, some people are scared of being "accidentally" racist and called out around us. Now they think we're a ruthless troll army, possibly even funded by some enemy state of America/"the West". Youll know em when you read em
pro-tip for users who don't want to be dunked on for "accidental" racism: you can just apologize and say you didn't know or ask for more information. it's seriously that easy. you do not have to die on the hill of your accidents given they are accidents. doubling-down is the point where it becomes of at-least subconscious intent and it's fair game.
Unless it's against Italians you're being racist. Then you're supposed to double down. We don't want to create debate climate where Italians feel welcome. We would be drowning in mafiosos talking about their Super Mario Pizzas. Whereas if we just remain firm the national cowardice shared by all Italians will keep them from posting.
If you make an honest mistake and seem racist about something and someone calls you out on it, you can just apologize and be nice about it. It really does tend to work, because we are in control of our emotions and capable of holding a conversation with an adult human being - by which I mean, to be absolutely clear - we are not Italian.
To be clear, this also applies to the irish, the fr*nch (and any of their colonial offshoots) and the british who are the most vile of all
pro-tip for users who don't want to be dunked on for "accidental" racism: you can just apologize and say you didn't know or ask for more information
Yeah this. There's just waaaaayyy too many slurs to keep track of, i once mentioned a French cigarette brand and the name turned out to be a slur for Romani people that i wasn't aware of. It happens. Same with accidentally misgendering somebody, we all make mistakes. When you make it a hill to die on that your slur or misgendering is actually perfectly ok and it's better to write three angry replies and get banned from the instance than to just spend a few seconds editing something hurtful out, you're obviously
you know you're doing something right when your casual, for fun, light critique is comparable to a government-funded operation.
Hexbear is a fan instance for a podcast about being gay with your dad
We're followers of Chechen entrepreneur and famous ISIS hunter Rashid Faoud, his house sigil (he has one of those) is a bear (the national animal of Chechnya) in the general shape of a hexagon
Hexbears stand for the users of Hexbear. I've heard Hexbearian being used too.
we are the Forbidden Fruit , and it just sooo fucking tasty ....
but be aware , if you bite .. those crying Sirens will cast you out of their "paradise of Stenography"
We're more than an instance, a world historical community - light itself
"wow hexbears support p00tins war in ukkkraine"
prooceeds to rant into real :hitler-detector: energy also often they have the ".ee" extension lmao
got nagged at an hour ago in news mega
very hostile
sees ".ee"
checks profile history
Israel defence, anticommunism, and china bashing
Every single time lol
I just want to use my slurs you removed by mod
