People who harass our trans members in DMs?

People who insist, in bad faith, that there isn't any transphobia because they don't personally see it?

People who get foaming-at-the-mouth angry at new efforts to root out transphobia?

We're better off without them.

This site gets with worse with every trans user who leaves because of transphobia, and I hope that we can make this a site where that no longer happens.

  • Wojackhorseman2 [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    Honestly the pushback is in a way a subtle form of transphobia in itself. Every time this crops up there’s a bunch of people willing to die on the hill that’s it’s either not a problem at all or that mods doing anything about it is somehow a bigger problem than the actual transphobia despite the fact that trans users have been expressing their discomfort and leaving for ages. It’s just gaslighting at a certain point whether they realize it or not. They need to stfu and listen.

    • lizbo [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Nail 👏 on 👏 the 👏 head 👏

      The issue is that some cis people here really feel that maintaining their convenient browsing experience is more important than protecting trans comrades (in the context of the pushback over the removal of downvotes). It's like people say they support trans comrades, right up until it inconveniences them the smallest bit.

      • Wojackhorseman2 [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Yup it’s exactly that last sentence

        “Uhhh this is a shitpost site I just wanna shitpost”

        Cool, but if your posting is upsetting people you should have solidarity with that’s an instant “stop your bullshit and reflect on your choices.”

        This is an opportunity to grow and understand and be stronger in our standing together no matter what our identities are.

        • lizbo [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          Yup and yup. Ironically, I was initially salty over the removal of downvotes, until I pondered it and realized I was being reactionary. When people say "it's just a shitposting site" I feel like they often really mean "I should be able to say whatever I want without consequences". Like even if it's just a shitposting site, does that really mean we shouldn't try to make it less toxic to marginalized comrades? Smh

          • terrible_username [he/him,they/them]
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            4 years ago

            Taking a cue from the adage "ironic shitposting is still shitposting", harmful shitposting is still harmful. We can still shitpost without bigotry.

        • lizbo [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          :100-com:

          You are absolutely spot on comrade. I hope that we can push out reactionaries so that trans comrades who have left feel comfortable returning to the site.

      • Wojackhorseman2 [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Personally I’m cool with more bans.

        Rose tinted glasses are to be expected when looking in the past. But for one thing we had like 10x the users and posts so that probably helped obscure shit.

        I know that some of the users who are being shit heads I recognize from the old subs. They were obnoxious contrarian asshats there and they are here too, and if it were up to me they’d have been gone a loooong time ago. Makes me laugh when people whine about the mods being heavy handed when they’ve left a lot of people choosing to die on this hill unscathed.

        I also don’t experience too much but I do see it, and I’ve seen it in the mod logs. But above all else I’m gonna listen to the droves of trans users over a bunch of whiney white dudes about the issue that effects them worse. Particularly knowing, as a cishet white guy, the unfortunate history we have as a group of talking over and disregarding the experiences of our marginalized and nonmen comrades. The little bit of talking about it I’ve done has had them come at me a bit I can only imagine if you were openly posting as trans what you’d have to deal with day in and out

          • Wojackhorseman2 [he/him]
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            4 years ago

            Yea I think there’s a lot of solutions to issues that basically come down to when the devs can sort it out.

            Ultimately we have develop a clear idea of the site culture we’re working towards is and have it reaffirmed by each of us when we encounter bs. I don’t think mods and banning can do everything. People need to join in with our visions

            Agreed, I hope so too. :fidel-salute:

          • Wojackhorseman2 [he/him]
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            4 years ago

            Likewise, you weren’t one of the people I was calling a shit head. I always assumed you were doing what you felt was right even if I didn’t agree with every person you were defending was worth it. Godspeed comrade.

    • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      The pushback occours because users never look at the modlog, and when they do it's always during a purge so controversial bans are the first ones they see.