If you haven't been familiar with the antiwork saga: The mod in question had an obscure post leaked where they confess to rape.
Now, I don't have any rape confessions. But this whole drama is fairly niche (no normal person on the street knows wtf this is about) and someone still had dirt on them.
When I was young and stupid, I may have uploaded some nudes of myself because I liked people calling me pretty. I know that some real-life people also may still have digital copies of them somewhere. Every time someone is ridiculed or cancelled for something that is leaked, it freaks me out because if I ever gained attention for whatever reason, I too have things I'm totally embarrassed about.
Lean into it and embrace shamelessness. Make your hypothetical interlocutors feel like the repressed prudes they are
This. I put a dickpic up online on like /r/thotsfortrotsky or something after a megathread got really horny on /r/cth. I know as a fact people I know irl know that account and have most likely seen it but who cares because A) it's a great photo and B) lol you're the one who went looking for a picture of my cock not the other way around
This is a good response on a personal level but I can imagine a lot of employers being really weird about this if they found this out about one of their employees.
How young were you? I made the calculated decision of putting out my first nudes when I was underage so that anyone who dug them up was technically looking at child porn. That's a pretty ironclad deflection to have in your toolbelt, assuming you can use it.
No I was like 18/19. Nothing underage. Just really cringe.
No, things like that really don't matter, in a worst case scenario you get to be super important and they get leaked, you ride any embarrassment out for a few weeks if you care at all (you shouldn't) and people stop caring. Things like that happen all the time. David Cameron (UK PM) put his dick in a pigs head, people made jokes, he rode it out, then it mostly went away.
Obviously I'll never be super important, but there are completely insane cataloguing websites (that shouldn't be named) who will release anything they can find on obscure people. And white male conservatives have less of a stigma. I doubt that reddit mod never really thought they were going to gain any amount of notoriety before this interview blew up.
I did porn like a decade ago and it's largely gone despite the popularity at the time, unless you know the right words. Porn sites die and there's a lot of porn. If not, fucking most people are gonna have nudes out there eventually
Notable people who haven't been screwed over despite having nudes out there:
Jeff Fucking Bezos
Hunter Biden the OG
The one lady that literally couped Bolivia
About half of all actors/actresses
There's fucking Bezos nudes lmao?
Also there's the infamous pictures of Angela Merkel from a nude beach in the GDR
I'd want to edit it and turn it into a sticker, if possible.
underneath our clothes, we're all revolutionaries :swole-doge:
CW: depression (kinda feels like I'm oversharing).
There's like two years of my life that are just a depressed blur, where the only thing I remember was trying to [REDACTED] under the wheels of a bus.
For all I know I may have taken nudes during that, but it's highly unlikely.
*unless you have some extremely unique tattoos/birthmark/scar/etc
Or you've posted hog enough to train Amazon's hog-recognition-software
Not necessarily. There's so many naked pictures on the internet of so many people you can simply deny its you, unless its one of said real life people, then that's more on them being assholes than it is on you. As long as you don't make a huge deal of it should be survivable, not going to be great if you're say a politician or something, but you can deflect a lot.
I doubt any one millennial or younger cares at all. Half of us have pics floating around somewhere. And seriously being naked is nothing to be ashamed about, it's just more puritanical brainwashing that makes us feel that way.
Yeah but it was a time where I felt really bad about my body for reasons I don't want to get into. If I had something tasteful from today I think I wouldn't feel as afraid.
That sucks, sometimes shit from our past does come back to embarrass us, but you haven't done anything wrong so if it ever does come to light just cringe and move on.
Just get nudes of everyone on the internet and then everyone is even
To legally participate on the internet you have to upload a picture of your genitals on your 18th birthday :top-cop:
no i have made multiple posts saying im below the age of 18 that mods have seen and am still here
even directly talked to an admin about it
I'm terrified of being exposed, too. I don't even have anything serious in my past, but the idea that something I thought was innocuous as a young person could bubble up to the surface still makes me nervous.
In reality, the fear isn't about receipts... it's just a symptom of shame. You have difficulty with self-acceptance and so you believe that if anyone else got to know you, your private self, then they would reject you, too. It comes from the idea that deep down at your core you are a bad person. This isn't true, though. You have to accept yourself without judgment - not excusing antisocial behaviors, but removing yourself from them and examining them, allowing yourself to understand why the behaviors occurred rather than jumping straight to "because I'm bad" - and then commit to doing better. Ground your self-image in materialism.
I'm definitely projecting here, but I think our situations might be pretty similar? The liberal brainworms tell you that people are either good or bad and should be treated accordingly. You know that's not true and you've long stopped judging others by this ideology, but it's a lot harder to stop thinking of yourself through this lens. It can take years to internalize the message that you deserve acceptance by nature of being a person, just like everybody else.
