Almost 3 years ago now, surfing around r/traaaa I came across this comic. I just liked the community because I thought trans people had some great memes and sense of humor, and I thought it was pretty cool that people stepped out to be themselves... Then this. Just wanted to share.
The fact that for years I have felt my heart flutter when strangers "mis"gender me and feel slightly disappointed when they "correctly" gender me requires no further investigation, just a funny lil quirk
This is what got me - during the pandemic I'd get ma'amed when I was masked up, after a few months of that it finally sunk in. 😅
I have no idea what the hell I was even thinking at the time. "Weird I feel really good today! I guess I just must have slept well lol "
One thing this meme doesn't acknowlege is that there's also a high chance you'll be cuter as a girl (or other gender of your choosing)
ask me how I know!What cis guy wouldn't hit a button that made it so he was born a woman instead, am I right guys?
i too remember scrolling r/traaaa and being faced with memes that spoke to my soul
Hope this is ok for me to post.
In theory, I like the idea of being a woman. It's just that I absolutely dread growing old as a woman, whereas I'm pretty cool with growing older as a man. I'm also pretty comfortable being a guy and more or less at peace with it. I also would have completely unrealistic beauty standards for myself... If I'm not the most beautiful woman in the room, what's the point? Plus, I would want to get implants and surgery; anything less than being smoking hot would be a disappointment for me. If I were 10 years younger, I would consider it. I'm close to my mid-30s and want to be a father one day... not a mom. I'm also lazy as hell, and being a hot woman sounds like super high maintenance.
Respect to anyone who transitions, but I don't think I'm brave enough for it.
Now there is a possibility that I am trans, but does it honestly matter if I don't transition and live my whole life as a guy ?
I absolutely dread growing old as a woman
anything less than being smoking hot would be a disappointment for me. If I were 10 years younger, I would consider it
does it honestly matter if I don't transition and live my whole life as a guy ?
just wanted to say that this was 100% me before transition and i ended up regretting putting it off
not to say you'll end up in the same boat, just that you can feel and think all these things and still be trans. i will also say that i am infinitely happier than i ever was as a man
however things shake out for you, i hope you end up happy
Can I make a thread about my feelings at some point ? Im not gonna make it right now since im not feeling it. But It would be nice to have some input from more people.
you definitely don't need permission, but i certainly don't think there's any problem with it
if you think it might be helpful to you then you absolutely should! you definitely don't need anything like permission, particularly from me.
The only person you are transitioning for is yourself, so it's all up to you.
While I would say that those beauty standards would almost certainly shift and change with time, if you feel genuinely comfortable where you are now and where you think you will be in the future, then you're in a good spot anyways.
Now there is a possibility that I am trans, but does it honestly matter if I don't transition and live my whole life as a guy ?
Self knowledge is worth something on its own. There are plenty of trans people who live as their assigned gender and have no plans to transition. There’re valid reasons for this and safety is a big one, physical, social, and psychological alike.
I present as my assigned gender because the fluidity and androgyny I’d prefer is very difficult to achieve for various reasons. I still get a lot out of understanding my dysphoria as such and doing tiny little subjective things that feel gender affirming to me throughout my day.
It’s also helped me massively just in terms of my self worth and in terms of dealing with my body dysmorphia.
Yeah this comic did it for me too, although I arrived at a different conclusion.
Probably not the best place to discuss it but in short: I hate certain social aspects and expectations of being a man but I certainly wouldn't want to have some of the expectations of being a woman on me. I just wish we could move past this duality so we could have the best of both.
Gods I wish I was exposed to more stuff in the past. Or anything really. Might've cracked my egg sooner. ;w;
am i missing the bit here or did the attachment not load right?
official transcript
Panel 1 Greg is sitting at his computer, puttering around doing nothing
Panel 2 Post shows up on screen: “If you’re under the assumption that you’re a cis guy but have always dreamed of being a girl, and the only reason you haven’t transitioned is because you’re afraid you’ll be an “ugly” girl: That’s dysphoria. You’re literally a trans girl already, hon.” (And yes, this is the exact text of the post that I read that set my brain ablaze)
Panel 3 Greg looks freaked out.
Panel 4 Greg looks SUPER freaked out.
It’s one thing I miss from before the de-fork. Legacy Hexbear embeds were handled better, although probably with more privacy concerns like auto loading google forms and stuff like that.
Yeah, I think it'd be worth looking into expanding the functionality with a blocklist for Google stuff but I honestly have no clue how to work something like that so I can't try myself.
no attachment, just a link
https://reallifecomics.com/comic.php?comic=june-29-2020
Sorry if this isn't the place to say any of this and I'll remove it if so, but this just reminded me of my own experience:
Many years ago I had an almost irresistable urge to go talk to a doctor about wanting to be a woman that lasted somewhere around a couple of months. During that time I had no insurance nor any means to pay for HRT or anything like that. Instead I experimented with clothes and makeup and I shaved my whole body basically. It felt like a large release of pressure to even do that much but it wasn't enough.
This was prior to having really spoken to anyone about it, and it was not something that was popular in media or even anything I saw online for that matter, it just kind of happened really suddenly.
I remember posting something about it on Reddit and being downvoted into oblivion. It wasn't a generally acceptable thing to even discuss it seemed.But then after a few months that urge began to fade away slowly. Less and less did I have that intense desire. Over the next year or so I began to lose interest in any sort of feminization at all. I threw the clothes away and stopped shaving all my body hair and I felt better.
Now it has been over a decade and change since that time and I have absolutely no desire whatsoever to be a woman. In fact I feel the opposite. I don't want to be a woman at all and I'm happy the way I am altogether. I actually think I'd be far more upset with myself now had I transitioned and I'd feel like I made a huge mistake.
I have no idea what happened or why it happened but it was so sudden and so intense it makes me wonder if there was something in my food or what?
Like, how the fuck does that even happen? Was it just some deep-seated desire to experiment that was triggered by something?
I can't even begin to explain it because throughout my life prior to that happening I don't remember ever wanting to be a girl or woman.
I'm not saying it's wrong or that anyone shouldn't feel that way, but for that urge to come on so suddenly and so strongly and then just fade away and now I have absolutely no feeling toward that, it's just bizarre and doesn't make much sense to me.
Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Could be fluidity. Could be repression. Could be random fluctuations that you’ll probably never really decipher. Whether or not you wanna try and understand it better is up to you and it’s valid either way. My dysphoria comes and goes, sometimes for long periods of time. But it’s not like cis people never have any natural desires or curiosity about gender experimentation. I think it’s normal.
Experimenting with sex and gender stuff is extremely normal, and I wish everybody treated it normally. I've sucked enough dicks in my life to recognize that I don't really like it enough to do it full time. And both of our experiences are okay!
You gave it a try, and it didn't feel like you, so... that's probably not you. I'm glad you could sort it out, and be your authentic self! That's nothing to be ashamed of.
