12% of women on Muzz wouldn't consider marrying anyone shorter than that, apparently
Women are expected to be short as a requirement instead
I grew up with a guy who was pretty open about that. It was probably just like you'd expect: He talked about desperately wanting to find a girl shorter than him, get married, and have kids. He had a role in mind for this human prop in his life, and he'd already imagined a body for her too.
I never heard him say anything that suggested he wanted a partner - I guess he wanted a waifu. In retrospect, I never heard him talk about girls without sounding like he was talking about some awe-inspiring, half-sapient mythical creatures
Yeah, it's not great...
Noticing descriptively that you prefer certain traits? Healthy and good
Internalizing prescriptively that you should prefer certain traits and ideating on them to compensate? Poison
I think the standard is unfortunately a lot worse for guys though. Like most dudes will only date a girl shorter than them, but I don't think there's as many guys expecting a huge height gap as girls, probably some but not as many (although most guys definitely fetishize big height gaps). Some girls will be like 5'4 and not settle for 5'10 (from what I've heard this is also more common in the US than other countries though)
most dudes will only date a girl shorter than them
Is this actually true? Seems like a safe bet to be a preference, but I wonder how many consider it a hard rule.
I've always found the obsession with height to be super strange. I'm a very short man by US standards, but height has never entered the equation for me. My first girlfriend was a full head taller than me (she was about as tall as I was short) and I thought it was dope. She revealed later to me that she sometimes felt ashamed to be seen with me in public, which I think was less about me and more about her feeling like a brute, and I hate that she was made to feel that way by dumb standards.
There's plenty of other things where I look in the mirror and wish this or that were a bit different, but if you gave me a button that made me grow an inch taller every time I pressed it, I wouldn't press it once. Being short is cool. You're nimbler, less prone to injury and illness, and comfy when others are cramped. It is insanity that there are parents who will give their prepubescent children fucking HGH injections to avoid the horror of them being a little on the short side.
I kind of prefer that a woman can sit on my lap and kiss me comfortably. If it wouldn't be feasible to kiss during sex, I'm less interested.
It's not a deal-breaker but unfortunately there is a sizeable chunk of women this works against.
In my limited experience, 5'5" is just fine. I suspect 5'3" is a bit of a stretch but workable.
I've had women admit to me that the primary reason they went on a date was my height. It's basically the male equivalent of having big tiddys. It matters a ton for some, and for others it's not really important.
All beauty standards are socially constructed and rarely make sense. You'd think the most important stuff would be "oh is he funny, does he treat me well, is he safe, blah blah blah" but no, our culture goes says height is the most important marker or whatever.
I've never had something up on a very high shelf and couldn't reach it by myself
Deranged? Pff, deranged is not to go into the amigara hole, I'm gonna get so much thussy after being spaghetified
There are so many women who only want someone that's toxically masculine and then wonder why all their relationships are terrible
I was blissfully ignorant for the longest time. It wasn't until I started wondering why my boring and smelly roommate always had so many girls around, or my co-worker who was known to be scary and abusive slept through the entire staff. They were average looking, and had very unattractive qualities to my bi-sexual self. Apparently their height made them extremely attractive and women couldn't resist them.
Societal norms are absolutely fucked. It makes me wary of being with a woman taller than me because of how she might see me. I don't give a shit if someone's a foot taller or a foot shorter, they just need to hate capitalism as much as I do.
On the other hand, it's a great way of filtering out awful people.
Glad to be the average height for AMAB folk
Everything is built to my specifications, clothes fit me properly and I can reach everything on the shelves
I want chairs I can sit in comfortably, damn it! Is that so much to ask? :honk-enraged:
But my feet are dangling and it's cutting off circulation :rage-cry:
You have to pay extra for a fancier chair
Like the one I paid $500 for because I can pretend to be a Starfleet captain in it
But I'm mostly complaining about all the seats I encounter out in public :picard-annoyed:
But for real though, I read an article a few years ago about how things are designed around an "average man's" size and this cursed knowledge means that now when I'm out in public and my legs dangle or I can't reach something, in addition to being annoyed that things are too big for a woman of average height, I'm also pissed because it's all because of the damned patriarchy. Though really, that's not the worst thing. Seatbelts and airbags are a lot less safe for someone of my height. There was a whole section on crash test dummies that was pretty scary, to be honest.
Oh yeah, my partner was telling me the other day that they never really bothered to crash test with female dummies and that's why so many women tended to get seriously injured over men
It's absolutely bananas how little people care about women even though they're always freaking out about them
Yup! If I set the seatbelt as low as it will go, it still runs across the bottom of my neck, which can't be good. As for the crash test dummies, the "woman" and "child" crash test dummies they use--when they bother to use them--are just scaled-down "man" crash test dummies, so they don't even accurately show how an actual woman or child's body reacts in a crash. The weight distribution, skeletal density, musculature, etc is all off.
It’s really weird how these companies flex their data surveillance on us like this. It’s just unbelievable to me that this went from data to marketing without any real protest from anyone. It’s wild man. Surveillance capitalism in full effect
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What if Shadowrun, but earlier, with no magic, no Awakening, no Great Ghost Dance, and where the runs are DoorDash deliveries where the adventure is about maybe getting killed by a :grillman: after getting spotted by a Ring camera?
Worst possible campaign imaginable. The DM for this reality sucks.
Under socialism, signs like this will simply be declarations instead of advertisements
:sadness-abysmal: are they saying someone 6 inches taller than me is a short king
"muzzy" was a briefly used as a slur for muslims online in the early 2000s.
Weird effect of dating apps is people started thinking this lol. Like I'm just under 6' and the only time I'd get a comment on my height people would say I'm tall. Well except this one time my friend said I was 5'7" because she's 5'7" and "we're the same height" she said, as she tilts her head slightly upward to make eye contact.
I can barely read that black font on that red background sitting here at a computer, nobodies gonna be able to read that from a moving car. This billboard will mystify thousands.
lib royalists driving by: “I agree with that billboard. The :ukkk: coronation should be for a short, Muslim man instead.”
the trend of catering to mens insecurities by calling them "kings" is one of the most embarrassing cultural developments. it's so incredibly condescending
calling women "queens" is also wack, stop it with the royalty fetishism ya fuckin dorks
