https://thehill.com/policy/finance/3777185-more-adult-children-are-living-with-their-parents-parents-are-not-pleased/
I don't think the adult children are all that happy about not being able to afford to move out
capitalism is hell. it should be natural to live with your parents. but the west trains parents to be shitheads to their kids and to kick them out when theyre 18 so that a landlord can siphon the family's wealth and labor away.
my parents are kinda shit about my transition but i suppose our superior slavic brainpans overrides this wedge and we have a house that is multigenerational despite being in the great satan. even then, with how jobs are set up, im still renting because my workplace expects me to come in every now and again to a far away place. if residential areas were more dense it would keep the wealth of the family up but even with our alternative family model im forced out thanks to the fact that jobs are spread out all over the place :shrug-outta-hecks:
in europe at least this is far less of an issue as the countries are generally smaller. they are doing their best however to become more like america in this regard, they are siphoning a lot of labor from the east as we speak to create this same issue with an even more colonial aesthetic.
i always thought lawn shit was funny and depressing. my parents would get shit for doing the bare minimum all the time, but come winter, all the lawns looked the same, including the ones meticulously watered, fertilized, and cared for. they refused to water and fertilize it because it was wasted money, instead preferring to do backyard gardening. theyd mow and pick weeds out by hand to save money. dont blame them at all.
ive seen some in unincoporated or non-hoa parts of cities but almost all housing is in suburbs with insane hoas that expect you to pluck grass down to 2 inches with your anus every saturday. and these hoas are usually set up by the corporations that build the housing in the first place who rentseek via hoa fees. so even if you 'own' your property (you probably dont because you took a loan out for it and pay rent via interest to loaners) you still pay 'rent' to the HOA. if you dont pay the fee or follow the rules they can levy fines on your house. and the rules can be supremely inane and if the hoa board doesnt like you personally theyll just send people to spy on you to look for minor infractions to fine you on. these people tend to do this for fun and arent paid.
AMERICA LAND OF THE FREE :joker-amerikkklap:
whats sad is praires and wildgrass looks so good and often greener than any lawn with literally zero work being done on it. whenever i drive around with my bf i always point out how lush they look :deeper-sadness: we saw this one vast field that looked soft and neon green almost the other day and had lots of winter blooming flowers
and the sadder thing is we could just choose to plant wild grasses that only grow to certain heights and leave it at that rather than importing foreign grasses that look like shit. but that also means you must be OK with some weeds which is bad apparently
my parents got fined once over having 'weeds' growing in their flowerbeds that werent classified as weeds by anyone with a brain and was able to fight against the fine in a small claims court lmao. they won because the HOA didnt show up. they were just flowers for pollinators (to attract them to the garden) that were out of season.
a weed is a plant in the wrong place there cannot by definition be a weed in an area you have elected to let grow wild
the west trains parents to be shitheads to their kids and to kick them out when theyre 18 so that a landlord can siphon the family’s wealth and labor away.
Say what you will about :anti-italian-action:, but thank God this is the one brainworm we largely don't have. Shame that house has to be in a suburb though.
it should be natural to live with your parents.
Idk maybe it’s just brain worms from living in capitalism, but I really like my parents and I would hate to live with them again. Even as an adult there’s a weird vibe with having your parents around, even though my parents and I just smoke weed in the living room. My relationship with them is also significantly better since I moved out.
its brainworms, also probably bad house design that doesnt have the idea of multigenerational housing in mind. multiple entrances and exits, plenty of parking, multiple living rooms, bathrooms. sometimes a second kitchen. ground level rooms for old people. stuff like that. everyone forks in to making it all better for the whole too with encouragements to modify the house to make it better for yourself and others.
Oh god adding the word “multi” makes it so much worse, living with my parents sounds shitty, ever seeing my extended family more frequently than every 2 years or so sounds far worse
my grandma is a communist so having her around is honestly a delight. she pops by for a couple years at a time but usually stays back in czechia. dads parents tend to stay in the place though, i dont notice them much they do their own thing. we have a frankly huge family thats everywhere. like i have maybe like 70 cousins lol
Ah yeah that sounds great. My grandma was a christo-fascist who donated to anti-lgbt causes and was obsessed with Joel Osteen. Thankfully she’s dead now.
Of the living ones we’ve got my mom’s abusive father and my ex-navy grandma who’s far and away the least bad, but her husbands kid’s a fucking cop.
The vast majority of my extended family are the shittiest christo-fascist southern white people you’ve ever met, so I hope you understand why living anywhere in their vicinity sounds like hell.
yeah i mean thats the thing though. we have a different culture. we're taught not to fuck with other family members and those that do that have a chance of being excluded. like i know some shitty christians in our family but if they fuck with me that gets on everyone's nerves. no drama allowed. helps that my commie grandma is the matriarch-in-charge and orders everyone around and supports me to the hilt.
Majority said it doesn’t make a difference or don’t care. Why the headline is like this, no wonder the credibility of this site and the one that wrote this is down the gutter.
I for one think it's a GOOD thing to have my large adult son around to help me carry heavy things around the house
Yeah, my dad needs someone to hold the flash light and scream at when fixing the lawnmower.
Large adult sons and daughters are the cornerstones of our Dad based economy.
One of those things where both should be accessible and normal and neither should be held up over the other as the real best way to live.
I love my parents but living at home with them is a struggle at times simply because of how our personalities and habits clash, and I love my grandparents too but I feel like I'd have a breakdown just thinking too much about a three generational home with them. At least if the panopticon is mostly faceless neighbors thats easier to deal with than your family constantly hanging over your shoulder IMO.
Quite literally the single best thing that has happened with my relationship between me and my parents is me moving out. Moved back in with them when covid started because I lost my job, and all we did was fight all the damn time. After like a year and a half I finally got a job in a different city and got the fuck out. Now, I talk with them on the phone on a semi-regular basis, and I’ll drive back and visit them every couple months or they’ll drive out and visit me. I’ve gotten closer with my parents by leaving them.
Oh yeah, I moved out again before it was truly feasible for me to do so since my horrifically violent grandmother was impossible to live with, even as a young adult. Even now that she's been dead for almost six years, I still refuse to move back in with my parents to save money despite their invitation, because they proved to me that they'd rather look like the good kids to the woman who not only abused their child physically and emotionally when my mother was single and couldn't afford other childcare--as well as my mother herself when growing up, than keep their own actual child safe, whether as a child or adult.
Sorry, your actions proved your words about 'always having a safe home here' to be a goddamn lie multiple times in my life, and I'd be a fool to ever trust those phrases.
I'm an adult child and I'm at your parents house I'm in a thruple with your parents
So 3/5 of dads are cool with it and the number is higher for moms
to be slightly more charitable most parents probably do in fact care for and like spending time with their kids.
The virgin nuclear family versus the chad three (or more) generation home.
Dear boomers you claim to uphold family values but you are angry for me squatting at the house and making it intergenerational
Curious
-turning point NEATsa
I think it's a consequence of the "free real estate" that came from genocide and colonization of the americas. It was much more viable to actually move out on your own when land was cheaper.
Hold on, it was your idea I should live with mummy and daddy forever. It was your idea that housing should become an investment like stocks.
Italian upbringing means that It's not really seen as weird for me to stick around, but I would still like at least an apartment in the city. I unironically think the reason they "invested" in the cities is for suburbs to become the more affordable option, which ultimately "saves" me from myself, who would otherwise move into a city and make friends, especially with gasp weirdos!
