HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE!!! 
got punched in the head by a fascist today after screaming at a march they were doing in my city. I'm fine (it was a very pathetic punch), no regrets, it's scary that that's something I have to worry about regularly now though. stay safe out there and happy pride
Had my first ever date on the first day of pride and I am in shambles. She's so cute and she thinks I'm so pretty and I just can't handle a girl that cute calling me pretty aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
I wonder what percent of the population is actually trans. Studies always say quite a bit lower than 1% of the population identified as transgender. But if you asked 1960s Americans if they were gay, you'd also end up with an extremely low number. Alfred Kinsey did a more detailed survey and found a very high percentage of people had gay attraction. Li Shiu Tong came to the same conclusion but I don't know what his methods were. So the vast majority of LGB people identify as straight in homophobic societies. The recent survey that shows something like a fifth of Gen Z is gay in some way proves this. So I wonder what percent of trans people identify as cis in transphobic societies? Are there any studies that ask if people would press The Button, or other questions more insightful than just "are you trans?" What if it's actually rather high? Egg discourse would go crazy.
optimistically, it will be significantly higher in the future when acceptance and awareness are way up compared to today. lots of people still grow up not knowing what a trans person is unfortunately but this will change as we make a better world
How many people know they're trans and just repress forever because inward agony of dysphoria is decided to be preferable to outward agony of persecution? Probably not zero
Well compared to several decades ago we're more visible, which has led to an increase of under one percentage point of the population in self-identification as transgender. So it's certainly not zero.
Came home from work yesterday to find a dress I ordered off Etsy came much sooner than I was expecting. It's first actual dress I've gotten. So I ran inside, and put it on. Sooooo comfy and cute. Then when my husband got home a little later, he immediately said I looked cute and that he was proud of me for buying a dress finally. (I've clogged our shared amazon account with dress recommendations from all the searches I've done) Then he told me he had gotten me an anniversary gift and it came yesterday also. So he gave it to me and it's an adorable pleated skirt! I nearly died. I started crying and hugged him, thanking him over and over. I'm so lucky I get to have him in my life.
I had to boymode to the store today because I was out of clean women's clothes. I haven't really done it the last month or two, and now it just made me feel horrible and dysphoric.
I used so much money to update my wardrobe this winter/spring, and now I have to do it again for summer because I have like 2 outfits for hot days.
local pride is corporate cop collaborator shit and trans pride, a local separate event that was anti cop, got neutered by fucked up local statutes in the wake of 2020, so i'm probably not attending pride events.
but happy pride for everyone. Four and a half years of hormones, north of five years of social transition under my belt and: I'm really tired but this is still the best thing I've ever done for myself.
Our local pride is bootlicker shit too. I went to another pride in a neighboring city and a bunch of cops and military. Ugh gross
if social legitimacy lies behind embracing corporate impositions while licking pig boot, then i don't want it. War it is.
So I'm doing a lot of research right now on stuff like hair removal options, make up, transfem workout programs, and related stuff. Is there a beauty comm for this stuff in particular? Or could I use the fashion comm? I just don't want to intrude on more serious discussion with questions on makeup or cute leggings or whatever.
Also trying to come up with a good transition strategy. My plan so far is just to go forward with HRT, body hair removal, and growing my hair out, until I can't hide it anymore, then I can just be like, "Welp. Guess I'm a girl now lol" but not sure how well this would work in practice. I also need to lose weight which could complicate things, or maybe it could provide me with more motivation to do both? Not sure how HRT and weight loss go together though, honestly.
Oh and I've started thinking of names, but I'm worried what I come up with is gonna be cringey. I really don't want a "normal" name, though, but I also don't want an obvious goth princess name (though I do want to be a goth princess).
EDIT: Ok I thought of a good name that is something meaningful to me and is really starting to stick in my head...
My plan so far is just to go forward with HRT, body hair removal, and growing my hair out, until I can't hide it anymore
Lol I think this was my plan, and I just got to the "Im a girl now" part.
Boymoding is sort of bad in that it makes it very hard to live a full life, like you can't completely function socially when you're pretending to be a guy all the time. But I think it totally makes sense to boymode for a limited amount of time well you wait for HRT and sort out some other stuff. Going full time is scary, but it's less scary when you don't have a beard to worry about and such. Practicing voice helps a lot too if that's something you want to do.
I also lost 40lbs on HRT by counting calories. It's totally doable. HRT will debatebly make losing weight harder, but, like, cis women lose weight all the time.
We have a fashion com, but it doesn't get many posts. I would love to read more of your thoughts about this.
Boymoding is sort of bad in that it makes it very hard to live a full life, like you can't completely function socially when you're pretending to be a guy all the time.
I don't function socially (in the real world) right now at all, to be honest. So, enduring that a little while longer wouldn't be a huge shift away from where I'm at currently. I have been trying to socialize in vrchat more though, which is great because I can be whatever I want physically and I can also limit my socializing exclusively to pro-trans spaces.
Going full time is scary, but it's less scary when you don't have a beard to worry about and such.
I agree and hair removal is a huge focus of mine right now. Problem for me is that I have some grey hairs on my face, which makes that difficult to contain with IPL, though IPL would work for every other part of my body. Maybe a combo of HRT, waxing, IPL would work? And then electrolysis at some point?
Practicing voice helps a lot too if that's something you want to do.
Yes! I have already started getting into this a bit and plan to do some free virtual classes.
I also lost 40lbs on HRT by counting calories. It's totally doable. HRT will debatebly make losing weight harder, but, like, cis women lose weight all the time.
This gives me hope! Was there anything particularly difficult? I need to do a lot more research on this. Much thanks for the response/advice!
We have a fashion com, but it doesn't get many posts. I would love to read more of your thoughts about this.
So no one would mind if we took it over maybe?
EDIT: To be clear, I didn't mean make it exclusive to trans people or something, but just to start posting more trans-related questions/threads there. I'm probably going to make a post there pretty soon on makeup stuffs.We could take it over for sure however it might be hard to actually get other trans folks to pay attention to it? Like you just might not get a lot of replies. I'll go sub to it though
Maybe she could repost them here? Are reposts a thing on hexbear?
Was there anything particularly difficult?
Honestly no, it was pretty simple. I was very depressed before I started E, and started feeling a lot better after a couple of months. That gave me the motivation to finally lose all the weight. I basically just started eating 2 meals a day and no snacks, and it came off pretty fast.
This is def the place to discuss clothing and fashion!!
Please ask questions on the fashion comm! I think that there would be a lot of grateful transfemmes if you do!
My plan so far is just to go forward with HRT, body hair removal, and growing my hair out, until I can’t hide it anymore, then I can just be like, “Welp. Guess I’m a girl now lol” but not sure how well this would work in practice.
I think that's sorta my plan for work except the planning to be a girl. Started with growing out hair and haven't started body hair removal yet (too busy during the summer). Didn't really worry about the logistics of it though. Started HRT mid-April and sorta hoped I wouldn't have any issues hiding it through the summer for work (while simultaneously wanting the changes to happen faster).
The not being out to my parents yet thing led to the slightly awkward situation of swimming topless at my parents a couple weeks ago and being asked by my stepmom again if I'm trans* while we're swimming because of the conversation (pretty sure there were not noticeable changes at that time so I don't think that was actually related). Topless estrogenated bodies should be normal anyways though.
*technically she didn't use the word, but it was implied.
Just noticed this mega is for the week ending in 6/9.
Nope, nothing unusual or special about that.posting: posting: yep, in a trans girl house now. internet now works
Thinking about switching to E injections and going on progesterone. Also I heard from a friend that they often give you extra so maybe I can crack some eggs with that
GAY 