it's how she describes herself lmao
I approve of the trend occurring where people replace the word cringe with reddit.
i have to stop myself from becoming too reddit trans but it's hard when i basically have no real trans people to talk to for 90% of the week so reddit memes are my only real way to interface with being trans
to be clear: there is nothing wrong with being reddit trans. people are annoyed about it becoming so big, but it's not like there's actually a problem with enjoying catgirl praise kink memes or whatever. do what brings you joy
oh absolutely. i spent $22 on a pair of really nice thigh highs and they are worth every cent. I bought a whole case of pink monster energy too because it looked trans femme and don't regret that either
Thigh highs are nice. Granted, the pair I got as a programming socks meme is the pair I wear the least. Mostly because avoiding attention at work while waiting stripped pink socks is probably harder, but wearing just regular solid colored socks under my pants means I don't have to feel my pants as much - its was extremely rare for me to wear pants except for dress code just because I dislike the texture.
Anyways, reddit is what lead to me questioning my gender and I've spent plenty of time in places like egg and tra and I'm a weeb who'd definitely take being anime-cat-girl if that was a realistic option that wouldn't lead to social ostracization. And I've made programming socks joke elsewhere as well. OTOH, skirts kinda "meh" imo.
I don't think sometimes making such jokes or liking certain things alone makes someone "reddit trans" when they can still have normal conversations and don't project their preferences onto others.
that new ruby red flavor of monster is not only my new favorite, but the can also has trans colors and has little cat faces on it. they knew what they were doing and i'm not ashamed to say it's working.
Are catgirl praise kink meme reddit trans? Cause that shit's kinda rad.
I think the praise stuff is more twitter, while pure uwu catgirl is reddit.
discourse on transphobic brainrot cognitohazard
I don't care if someone is reddit trans. What I do care about is a fellow transgender breaking the prime directive. And no I'm not talking about that anti-egg-cracking nonsense. I'm talking about how she's exposed 400,000 people to the terms HSTS and AGP.
https://twitter.com/hausofdecline/status/1786018108647387177lmao i was considering posting that here later
Try and stay away from Blanchard jokes if I can help it, but once you come up with 'deadliest warrior style infographic comparing battle stats of AGP vs. HSTS' you simply have to shoehorn it in
This is a very funny concept that should absolutely not leave the "trans community in-joke" stage.
Makes me so happy that so many people here have no idea what I'm talking abt when I say AGP.
I've learned just enough to know that it's nonsense that only TERFs and deeply brainwormed people take seriously
Remembering the first time I went on /mtfg/, saw someone say "AGP", made this joke and they said
computerstypical agp.
HSTS
wait what's wrong with HTTPS Strict Transport Security?
the terms HSTS and AGP have melted my brain. whenever i feel any sort of attraction to women i think to myself "certified AGP moment" and then feel disgusted with myself
i used to be bi but i've psyop'd myself into being het
Blanchard is a quack, his ideas could never be backed up with any clinical evidence, there is nothing that indicates a meaningful difference in the transness of straight and lesbian trans women and bisexuals or asexuals do not even exist in his model. The entire concept is a lesbophobic gatekeeping plot by a horny chaser bastard and if you come across a psychologist that still believes this, it's a good reason for trans women never to be alone in the same room with him when the door is closed. I'm unfortunately not joking, the last remaining Blanchardian in my state is a massive sex pest. These are the kinds of people we're talking about.
But let's assume for a moment they are correct and liking girls makes me a confused fetishistic man. Given that the women i date are all transbians as well, that would make all of us gay men. Which would in turn make all of us HSTS. Which would then make all of us lesbian. Which ...
You see how none of this crap makes any sense at all?
Blanchard is a quack, his ideas could never be backed up with any clinical evidence, there is nothing that indicates a meaningful difference in the transness of straight and lesbian trans women and bisexuals or asexuals do not even exist in his model. The entire concept is a lesbophobic gatekeeping plot by a horny chaser bastard and if you come across a psychologist that still believes this, it's a good reason for trans women never to be alone in the same room with him when the door is closed. I'm unfortunately not joking, the last remaining Blanchardian in my state is a massive sex pest. These are the kinds of people we're talking about.
oh so it's "vaccines cause autism" but for trans women
TERFs tell us that autism cause trans people but have we ever considered that trans people cause autism?
(This is a joke please don't hate me)
oh i know it's all bullshit but it doesn't need to make sense for it to fuel my self-hatred
yes and this is something i'd never apply to anyone else but myself but i don't think i'll ever be in a wlw relationship because of it
Yeah thats valid ofc if you can't date a woman because it makes you feel bad then yeah don't
iirc in the blanchard lore bisexuality is explained by "meta attraction" I.e. you're just attracted to the idea of yourself being more feminine by being with a man.
hot take but I think being "agp" is not bad or pathological any more than being trans is. Cis women get to enjoy feeling/being perceived as hot without it being a mental illness, why shouldn't trans women
AGP is obviously an anti-trans slur, not a description of an actually existing sexual phenomenon. The only people that ever apply it to cis women are trans women making a joke. What you're describing is just called "feeling sexy"
hot take but I think being "agp" is not bad or pathological any more than being trans is.
Maybe we can just leave this AGP shit out of conversations about trans women entirely. Nothing is gained from using a harmful, completely fucked, brainwormed gatekeeping term and applying it to normal human behavior.
the problem is pathologizing and shaming behavior that doesn't actually harm anyone- it doesn't matter what specific term you use to do it, hence why the term "agp" is in quotes.
i was trying to push back against the common rebuttal of "we're nothing like those gross perverts Blanchard writes about" because it leaves room for the transphobes to move on to something else. it concedes too much! Imo people should be allowed to transition because they have a right to as a matter of bodily autonomy, not because they fit within some abstract standards of behavior.
Ok, i get it now and i largely agree that a certain "do i want her or do i want to be her" mood is extremely common among cis women as well, and i particularly agree that transness isn't something to be diagnosed in the first place. I also think that both of these arguments are among the many, many good reasons to discard the term AGP in its entirity. I just read the quoted part as you actually arguing within AGP discourse, the way it's worded is just a bit ambiguous.
i mean i pretty much was, op admitted to having brain worms around the term so i was trying to suggest re-examining/reclaiming it from that angle
im irreversibly brain broken from some chaser coming into my dms on another site at one point and mentioning AGP in passing and me innocently asking what that meant and being exposed to it from some chaser who went on to ask me for feet pics
"skirt go spinny," catgirl memes, programming socks. things of this nature
I mean I'm not super deep into the world of trans social media but I kinda thought that was a thing everywhere. Hell I feel like I used to see a decent amount of it here.
yeah it's seen as a reddit thing because it was so dominant on r/traa. it existed everywhere but there's been some pushback against it. you will mostly not see actual rejection like pictured in the comic, which is a humorous exaggeration, it's just seen as slightly cringe
I think its when you say "skirt goes spinny" as every other comment and accuse femboys of being eggs.
Like
offensive?
a pick-me?
(Edit: Idk what I was saying... I'm confused)
conflate womanhood with a couple of choices in clothing
i don't think it's intentional but this is a deeply transphobic way of framing things you find cringe
Definitely not intentional. Out of context, it could definitely be portrayed as a terf talking point. I meant it specifically when it's used by people to insist people who explicitly identify as cis are actually secretly eggs in denial - even if it turns out to be true, it's still disrespectful to ignore how people ask to be gendered.
i am unconcerned with the plight of the femboy. people are slightly annoying to cis guys who wear dresses by suggesting they may be part of a broader community, who cares. being a woman is not a negative thing, being trans is not a negative thing, people are constantly annoying to everyone on the planet for all kinds of reasons femboys aren't special
i'm going to ban you for a week, don't come into a thread that isn't about femboy erasure and get really mad about and interpret everyone's comments as being about femboy erasure
i am unconcerned with the plight of the femboy
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People on this website will really upbear one of the most stock transmisogynist catchphrases out there just because the hypothetical group of trans women targeted by the phrase have been hit with as unserious a label as being "reddit"
Like it's perfectly understandable to not pick up on "the plight of the femboy" type rhetoric as a dogwhistle but this is literally just the most stock harrassment trans women get hit by on twitter but with a reddit label crudely stamped over it.
Not sure what you mean? I'm talking about people who explicitly say they are cis femboys and yet repeatedly are made the butt of a joke by a small sunset of trans women. I don't see how respecting people's sincerely and repeatedly stated gender identity is transphobic. Im in no way intending to imply that people identify as a woman are just femboys in denial if that's what you thought I meant.
It's a completely unserious conflict, a huge amount of trans women have experience with self denial of identity so its understandable that they would be persistent in trying to help others avoid delaying transition, at worst the situations described consist of cis men getting joked about by trans women, this is just not a real problem and its pretty much exclusively forwarded as a problem in order to demonize trans women.
And what I am accusing you of is peddling extremely thinly veiled transmisogyny, since the entirety of your account existence is posting twice in some "would you rather be trapped in a forest with a man or a bear" thread elsewhere, and then coming to hexbear to talk shit about a designated "cringe" group of trans women.
described consist of cis men getting joked about by trans women, this is just not a real problem
Agreed. If it was a real problem, I'd have left the communities that did that a long time ago if I thought it was seriously problematic. It's in poor taste imo. But like in the same way that the Aces invading Denmark is cringe and in bad taste (tbh, I find that meme hilarious, regardless of whether it's cringe or otherwise in bad taste). Not in the same way that transphobia is bad.
And what I am accusing you of is peddling extremely thinly veiled transmisogyny, since the entirety of your account existence is posting twice in some "would you rather be trapped in a forest with a man or a bear" thread elsewhere, and then coming to hexbear to talk shit about a designated "cringe" group of trans women.
Guess it does appear that way to someone who hasn't been around here much. Just migrated instances because the previous one has been having ongoing technical difficulties. Been a regular here for at least a few weeks (been following since the beginning, but only recently started commenting regularly) and was a regular member of those other places I'm poking fun at as well up until the blackouts at reddit. I'm glad they exist and most of the cringe is in good fun.
You keep going on about it a lot for something that you apparently agree is at most mild disrespect of trans women towards cis men, and I would rather you address you word for word repeating a transmisogynistic harrassment slogan but with reddit added to it, rather than clarifying your account history.
I've been around trans spaces online quite enough to know crypto bullshit when I see it.
This is the third time that somebody has called out your gross transphobic bs and you keep deflecting like the world's biggest debate pervert.
You outright said that these people are "conflating womanhood with a couple of choices in clothing". That part of your post, which is just rephrasing the terf argument that trans women are "treating womanhood as a costume" or "are doing woman blackface", has been quoted verbatim by two different posters, you have replied to both. You have not engaged with this criticism once, you disingenious transphobic shitweasel.
Actually most of the callouts come from truscums and other assimilationists who police other transfem's gender expression because they're afraid cissies may find it cringe and tbh your take about "conflating womanhood with a couple of choices in clothing" is an outright carbon copy of terf talking points.
How is telling people you don't have to like skirts to be trans or that you should not insist you know other people's gender better than themselves policing other's gender?
The fuck are you even talking about? The common criticism of catgirl culture has always been that it's cringe and "makes us look bad". None of your post has anything to do with a critique of some strawcatgirl invalidating femboys or telling people you need to like skirts, either.
People who identify as women is the best definition I've seen.
Wanted to clear up a few misunderstandings about my beliefs.
Some misunderstandings I think some people had:
- I was complaining about fictional characters being called trans
No. I agree its annoying when people insist that characters aren’t trans. Characters like Ruka from Steins Gate and Ferris from Re:zero are common examples where its seems pretty obvious the characters are, yet people whine when people suggest that they’re trans representation or relatable for trans people. And even when Bridget was confirmed trans, there were still plenty of people who still refused to acknowledge that. Such complaints are transphobic and I’d never agree with them.
I think an adjacent assumption people made is that I’m totally against suggesting to a real person that they are an egg when they do things that suggest they’re eggs. I’d personally think I’d have preferred someone to have said something when I’ve made pretty obvious comments, so I’m not a strict believer in the “prime egg directive.” OTOH, even if I think someone is an egg, if they ask to be gendered a specific way, I’m always going to respect their request (unless they’re just obviously being transphobic, such as asking to be identified as an attack helicopter). Personally, I talk about how I think my mom might be an egg online and how her transphobia is the primary thing keeping her from realizing it. I don’t want to deal with her transphobia, so I have a hard time trying to talk about these things with her. I think Mafumafu is case of a celebrity whom I wonder if they might be an egg, but as long as he says he’s a man, I’m going to address him as such. I’d love to find out otherwise though. I don’t think reverse-transphobia is a thing, so I’m not suggesting its equivalent misgendering trans people for not conforming to stereotypes.
- I was suggesting trans women are not women
Pretty clearly answered this already by saying otherwise. But I’m going to repeat it here: trans women are women. Whether someone conforms to local stereotypes for women or not have no bearing on whether they’re women.
- I’m a cis man/femboy
Ironic seeing a comment calling a trans fem person a man and implying I’m a femboy being upvoted. I don’t blame the user, but no one thought to correct them? Pretty confident I’d have noticed if someone as active as I’ve been the past few weeks up to my ban was being misgendered like that.
- I think badly of egg_irl/tra users.
The only reason I left is because of the reddit API and IPO stuff. I’d still be there otherwise and generally liked them (the trans communities were the main thing I missed about reddit). I’m not a fan of compliments personally, so I tend to avoid giving compliments: giving compliments feels like it is genuinely insulting. So, I have a tendency to make fun of things I like or consider myself a part of instead. Works better IRL because tone gets loss in text and people lack the context to understand that actual meaning. I do think reddit as a platform tends to push up cookie-cutter responses (“THIS ^”) that people feel rewarded for by karma, so certain things get a bit spammy. But the same is true across all of reddit and not intended to be a serious insult of the individuals who participate in such (including myself) and the spammy nature can still be fun (at least for a while). I personally found the weekly egg joke aimed at a specific IRL person who has asked repeatedly to be gendered otherwise distasteful, but not a serious offense. This is what I was referring to in the main sentence people took contention with. My intended point was people should have their gender respective regardless of how they’re presenting at that moment. If I wanted to complain about something seriously, I’d have brought up how often trans men were misgendered on accident.
a person who tries to prove they're not like other people but fails to execute it, in the context of relationships.
I hope I don't twist myself up in this...
Serious word of advice: This is why outsiders should just keep out of intra-community drama.
i left my catgirl reddit trans phase long ago in order to enter my esoteric trans dog girl phase but i will always have respect and love for anyone who would be labeled "reddit trans"
I've noticed this cat>dog pattern a lot, wonder if it's a generational shift or just me picking different social circles from a few years ago :|
my partner just became a dog after being a cat for >4 years and it's fucking with me
they didn't say 'not like' they said 'demeaning'
unless you're saying you want to be demeaning towards a trans person for liking those things?
i wish i knew
next time i post a dumb comic here and someone decides to start femboy discourse they get permabanned immediately
I don't think the reddit descriptor really works out if you apply it to yourself. The self-awareness required to do that prevents it from being true
nah it works. reddit is a description of a specific slice of online trans culture, not just a synonym for cringe
internalized transphobia?
is it bad to say that reddit trans type people make me actively embarrassed to be trans? is that pick-me behavior? i don't want to be a pick me but good god it is so cringe
It's pick-me behavior if it makes you embarrassed to be trans. It's based if it makes you embarrassed to be familiar with Reddit culture
There's all kinds of odd stuff, immature behavior, fetishes, neurodivergence, walks of life, backgrounds, beliefs, etc. in the queer community. If someone is doing stuff that you find cringey, don't take that on yourself. These things are not transness itself and we're not a monolith.
Stuff like this makes me glad I'm an old head and understanding less and less of the terminally online meme stuff. Touching grass is good folks!
I prefer wearing pants, so luckily this is unlikely to happen to me.
